Today, I am going to talk about Indonesian females and how you can meet and hook up with them, both online and in some of the largest cities in Indonesia.
If you are new here, make sure to check out all the women’s country guides to see how Indonesian women compare in all categories.
Apart from that, I’ve gathered quite a big collection of Instagram photos and profiles for you to check out if you are interested in some hot Indonesian women.
So, without too much delay let’s begin with this international dating guide about beautiful Indonesian girls.Is your dating app giving you the best chance for success? Make sure to take our online dating site/app quiz to find out. People who follow our dating site suggestions have on average 2 more dates per month.
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12 Most Important Traits of Indonesian Women Rated 1-10 (+ Overall Score)
The first thing I want to talk about in this international dating guide is what are Indonesian women like because not everyone can say that they’ve managed to hook up with sexy Indonesian women, so most of you probably don’t even know what they are like.
Because of that, I’ll start by listing some of the most important characteristics that distinguish Indonesian women from other women in other countries.
I divided these characteristics into two groups, physical and personality traits, so now I am going to list the traits and explain each of them individually.
What Physical Traits Distinguish Indonesian Women from Other Women
1. Physical Appearance
If you like exotic women, you will definitely like Indonesian women body type, since they look amazingly good.
The average height of Indonesian girls is around 152cm, which is perfect if you like shorter women, or if you are not so tall yourself.
Apart from that, they have amazing skin color, which varies, depending on the culture they belong to since there are women from a lot of different cultures living in Indonesia.
It is common that in overcrowded areas, diseases can flourish, but even though there are a lot of people living in Indonesia, the quality of life is good enough.
Therefore, you could say that Indonesian girls are quite healthy, which is not just the product of good genes, but also a healthy diet and regular workout.
They always tend to look good, especially if they are of non-Muslim origins because Indonesian women who are Muslim always have to be covered with clothes, so they can usually only workout at home.
3. How stylish they are?
One of the common Indonesian women stereotypes is that they are not so stylish. Now, depending on the region of Indonesia you want to visit, this statement is usually true, but it doesn’t have to be.
In Jakarta, for instance, 80% of women practice Muslim religion, so they have to follow strict rules that are in Quran, which means that they can’t wear western clothes out in the open.
However, the other 20% of women who are more liberal are actually decently stylish, and they always tend to look good and show their attributes.
4. Facial beauty
If someone asked me to compare Indonesian girls to some other girls from the region and tell whether they are similar to for, for instance, Arabian, Chinese or Korean women, I wouldn’t be able to do so.
The reason for that is because Indonesian girls are like the perfect mix of all those women, plus the exotic feeling of the island nation.
They don’t have any pretty distinctive facial characteristics, compared to women from all these other nations I’ve mentioned, but I have to say that they are extremely pretty, which goes perfectly with their good bodies.
Therefore, if you like short and beautiful girls, then dating Indonesian girls is definitely your kind of thing, so don’t hesitate to try it.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the physical trait ratings for Indonesian women, we have also created our own additional rating from the Indonesian Women we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of Indonesia and took note of how many beautiful women there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Indonesian women. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
What Different Personality Traits Indonesian Women Have from Other Women
1. Do they Like Going out and Having Fun?
However, these traditional beliefs also have several downsides. And one of those is the fact that typical Indonesian women don’t go out often because they have to follow the rules set by their cultures and religions.
Therefore, it is quite hard to meet Indonesian girls on the streets during the day, except in the shopping malls, but more about that later.
Also, they rarely go out during the night as well, but that really depends on their culture. Women who are more liberal like going out to clubs, so they are usually your best chance to hook up with pretty Indonesian girls.
2. Chill Factor
Even though Indonesian girls are usually very respectful towards their men, they can often be quite fiery and pick random fights without reason.
I mean, I always thought that’s because they need to blow off some steam and since they can’t do it anywhere else due to their cultural laws, they have to do it with you, so personally, I was never bothered too much with that.
Therefore, one of the most important things you need when dating Indonesian women is to have a lot of patience with them.
One of the Indonesian girl stereotypes that are true is also one of the best things that come out of traditional beliefs, which is that Indonesian girls are quite loyal to their men.
Their cultural laws forbid adultery, and they are really serious when it comes to strictly following religious laws, so you will almost never stumble upon an Indonesian girl who would cheat on you.
Also, they will always show you respect and stay by your side, whether you are right or wrong about something, which can sometimes be a pretty bad thing, but it is still good to have that utmost support from someone.
4. Good as Mothers
Being so conservative, Indonesian girls usually grow up in quite traditional families, with a lot of family members living together.
Therefore, they often have to take care of their younger siblings, while parents are working, as well as taking care of elder members of the family.
Because of that, they learn how to be a good mother, wife, and housekeeper, while they are still young, which is pretty useful for the later stage of their lives.
5. Meeting and Talking to New People
Since Indonesian girls don’t go out too much, it is really tricky to even approach them in public, which makes hooking up with them much harder.
However, if you stumble upon Indonesian women who are more liberal, you will have a chance to meet them and see what they are like.
And truthfully, they are quite interesting to talk to, since they are educated, smart and pretty fun to date with.
6. Are they Romantic?
You could say that every woman in the world is romantic, so is there really a point in asking this question, you may ask?
True, but not all of them are romantic in the same way. For example, Latinas like harsher men, and consider fighting for them romantic, while women from some other countries might find them too primitive.
Indonesian girls are indeed romantic. They like it when you treat them nicely and buy them gifts since they learned how to rely on men for providing for the family.
Apart from just being loyal and respectful, Indonesian girls also know how to please their partners in the bedroom, which might seem weird to some of you, due to their traditional beliefs.
However, you shouldn’t listen to empty stories and focus on real facts, and the fact is that Indonesian girls are very sexual.
They will do things to you that you can’t even imagine, and they are pretty open to experimenting with new things.
8. Gringo Card – How Likely are They to Date Foreigners?
As stated, it is really hard to approach single Indonesian women on the streets, and even in bars, it might not always be possible.
This is why all foreigners will definitely have trouble hooking up with sexy Indonesian girls unless they are patient and crafty enough.
The best way to do it is, either to pay for it, which is a plausible option, or to try to hook up with more liberal Indonesian girls, but they are in the vast minority, so good luck with that.
Indonesian women are fast evolving into the new era of technology and education compared to what it used to be like.
You are sure to meet lots of them in the cities with advance education and for a foreigner, this is an opportunity for you to meet a woman that is open to learning more from you.
Read further to know more about these women and their culture and see if you can fit in and enjoy the social life when you visit.
Where to Meet Indonesian Women
Those were the most important physical and personality traits of typical Indonesian women, so now you know what are Indonesian women like in bed and relationships.
Let’s move on and discuss how you can meet an Indonesian woman, which will be especially useful if you are an American man looking for Indonesian women, or if you are from any other foreign country, without almost any knowledge about Indonesia.
The best way to learn something about how dating works in Indonesia is to register on some of the numerous international dating services, so I will tell you what is the best online dating website for dating Indonesian women.
After that, I’ll focus on listing the best places in some of the largest cities in Indonesia, if you decide to travel there and try your luck in person.
Even though there are a lot of online dating services, there aren’t many of those who focus solely on meeting sexy Indonesian girls.
Therefore, if you want to meet some and possibly get Indonesian girls in bed, you should definitely try IndonesianCupid.com.
The website is run by Cupid Media, which has a lot of similar websites, where people can meet each other from all around the world.
So, it is definitely the best way to meet pretty Indonesian ladies and learn something about their dating culture, so you could be ready if you decide to visit Indonesia yourself.
The website itself is pretty popular. It has more than 1 million registered members, from all around the world, with 40,000 active ones on a weekly basis and around 168,000 people registered in the USA.
When it comes to the age distribution, most members are between 35-44, followed by people who are between 25-34, which means that you can find pretty hot women and cougars here.
Most of the members seek serious relationships and even marriage, but that doesn’t mean that you cannot find people for casual fun.
One of the best things about the Indonesian Cupid is that you don’t have to answer lengthy questionnaires in order to register on the website.
You can simply use your email address, or sign up through your Facebook account, with only a few needed information that must be put in.
Now, even though becoming a member is free per se, there are some features that are locked behind the paid subscription, such as messaging.
If you are a free member, you cannot contact other free members, just the premium ones, so if you want to unlock the messaging, you will have to pay for one of the two premium packages, Premium Gold and Premium Platinum.
Another good thing about Indonesian Cupid is that it is supported on mobile phones. However, that is only the case for Android users, since the application is not available on iOS and Windows phones.
Traveler’s Guide for Meeting Indonesian Women
Now you know where to meet an Indonesian woman online, so you can learn more about Indonesia and get some Indonesian women dating tips.
But what if you decide to travel to Indonesia and try to hook up with hot Indonesian girls for real? You will need to check some places and see where to meet Indonesian girls.
Therefore, I’ll tell you where and how to meet Indonesian women in the three largest cities in the country, which are Jakarta, Surabaya, and Medan.
Jakarta is the capital and the largest city in Indonesia, with around 15 million residents. If I also counted urban agglomeration, this number would go up to around 35 million.
The city is formally known as the Special Capital Region of Jakarta, and it is the most important trading, industrial, political and cultural center of the country.
Because of that, Jakarta is viewed as New York of Indonesia, which is why it has a nickname “Big Durian”, which is a thorny fruit that is native to the region.
The city was founded back in the fourth century under the name of Sunda Kelapa, which means that it has a rich history, which is why there are a lot of tourists and businessmen coming to the city every year.
The majority of women in Jakarta are Muslim women, which means that their culture and religion are pretty strict, which is proven by the fact that you will see a lot of women who are completely covered up, from head to toes.
That can also be a challenging faction if you decide to travel there and try to hook up with some pretty girls from Jakarta because a casual hookup is not a common thing for them.
However, there are women who are more liberal. Estimates show that there are around 20% of them are quite liberal and open to talk to strangers. These are the women you are looking for if you just want to hook up.
Approaching girls in Jakarta, both during the day and night, can be quite challenging, but not impossible at all. You just need to be patient and act like a gentleman.
As in many other traditional countries, the best way to meet hot girls is to visit some of the best shopping malls and districts, and the most popular ones in Jakarta are:
- Grand Indonesia
- Pacific Place
- Plaza Indonesia
- Kota Casablanca
- Senayan City
- Lotte Shopping Avenue
- Plaza Senayan
Now, the chances to meet sexy girls who are willing to hook up with you during the night in Jakarta are pretty slim, but they are still way higher than your chances during the daytime.
Depending on your location, there are several quite noticeable nightclubs in every district of the city, so let’s start with South Jakarta:
- Triple 9
If you are situated in the Central Jakarta, the best nightclubs to visit and try to hook up with hot girls would be:
And lastly, the region of North Kota has two quite popular nightclubs:
The 2nd largest city in Indonesia is Surabaya, with a population of over 3 million residents, and it is a very important trading hub for the country.
In the past, it was colonized by Dutch people, and because of that, there are a lot of buildings from that period, as well as a lot of pretty modern buildings, which all make the city very beautiful and different than anything you’ve seen before.
There are several cultures in the city, with Chinese and Arab quarters being the most populated areas in the city.
One of the most important mosques in the city, called the Ampel Mosque, was built back in the 15th century, which makes it one of the oldest buildings in Surabaya.
Another thing that distinguishes Surabaya from, for example, Bali, is that it has an active volcano, called Bromo Volcano.
Your chances to meet sexy girls in Surabaya during the day are as poor as in Jakarta, due to the conservative nature of the residents.
So, you will need to be patient and play your cards right, in order to successfully hook up with hot girls from Surabaya. It would be best to visit some of the areas listed below:
- Tunjunga Plaza
- Pakuwon Mall
- Chiputra World, which is a shopping complex with a lot of good-looking girls
- Jalan Sumatra, an area where there are always some live music and interesting people to meet
- Surabaya Town Square, which is filled with shops and places with excellent music
As for the nighttime, your chances to meet pretty girls in Surabaya are much better, since there are a lot of popular clubs and bars, where there are even pole dancers and a lot of sexy girls.
Some of the most popular clubs and bars in Surabaya, where you can meet beautiful Indonesian girls are definitely worth checking, and they are:
- Foreplay, which is very popular amongst the student population, since the club offers a student night every Monday.
- Jimmy’s, a quite good bar with live music and a lot of drinks to choose from.
- Eclettic, a bar that is close to Surabaya Town Square Mall, so it is always full.
- Desperado’s, a place where most foreigners go, and probably the best place to start looking at your Indonesian girl since those who come to this bar are usually willing to hook up with foreigners.
- Coyote, which is the most expensive place in the city, where you can usually find pretty good escort ladies.
- M1 Superclub, which is popular amongst the older population and there are features quite similar to what Coyote offers.
- Colors Pub, where you can find excellent food and great live music.
Medan is one of the largest cities in Indonesia, with over 2 million residents and it is also one of the most important trading centers in the country because it is located close to Kuala Lumpur and Singapore.
Since it was previously one of the most important hubs of Chinese traders, Medan is quite famous for its rubber plantations.
What makes Medan different than other Indonesian cities is that there isn’t a major ethnic group since there are people of several different cultures, such as Malay, Javanese, Minangkabau, Mandailing Batak, Northern Indians, Chinese, Toba-Batak, Karo Batak and Southern Indians.
Therefore, if you decide to visit Medan, you will be able to meet a lot of girls that are of different ethnic origins.
The same as in every traditional country, the best way to meet some hot girls in Medan is to visit one of many shopping malls, such as:
- Medan Mall
- Sun Plaza
- Hermes Place Polonia
- Grand Palladium Mall
- Centre Point
When it comes to meeting hot girls in Medan during the night, you can simply visit some of the best nightclubs in the city, such as:
- XXX3 Entertainment
- Retrospective Entertainment Club
- New Zone Entertainment
- Nightclub Sampul
- Entrance Music Temple
- Tobasa Club
Pros and Cons of Dating an Indonesian Woman
I’ve been through what are Indonesian women like in relationships and bed, and where and how to meet an Indonesian girl.
So now, let’s focus on delivering all that into a simple list of positive and negative sides of dating an Indonesian woman.
1. Women from Indonesia are very loyal
One of the best things that come from the traditional beliefs of Indonesian girls is their utmost loyalty towards their partners.
That means that you will almost never meet women of Indonesia who would cheat on you with some other men if they got a chance to do so.
2. Indonesian girls are good in the bedroom
Even though casual hookups with single Indonesian women is near to impossible, that doesn’t mean that sex with typical Indonesian girls is bad.
On the contrary, they are very hot and fiery, and they really know how to please their partners, by experimenting with new poses and things to do in the bed.
3. They respect their partners
With complete loyalty comes great respect for their partners. Indonesian girls will always respect you in every way.
They’ll be your moral support and respect every decision you make, whether it is good or bad for your relationship.
Sometimes that can be pretty annoying since they will rarely say what’s on their mind, but if you like being dominant in the relationship, then dating Indonesian girls is your thing.
4. Girls from Indonesia know how to tend to the household
Because they grow up in such traditional families, Indonesian girls learn how to tend to the household and family while they are still young.
So, whenever you come home, you will find that it is completely clean and that everything is neat, which is a rarity in these modern days.
Also, they really know how to be good mothers, since they also learn how to tend to their siblings and elders while they are young.
5. Indonesian chicks are exotic
Never in the world, you will find women that are so exotic and different than every other woman across the globe.
The reason for that is because Indonesia is a country of many cultures since every island basically has a different culture.
So, single Indonesian girls are so unique because they are a mix of many different cultures, making them exotic in their own way.
6. Dating Indonesian girls means dating their culture as well
One of the best reasons to date Indonesian girls is the excitement of dating women of different cultures and learning about them along the way.
Every new day in your relationship will uncover something new, so you will definitely enjoy dating an Indonesian girl.
1. Indonesian women like to pick random fights
Even though they will respect and be loyal to you, Indonesian girls can be really tricky to date because they often like to pick fights for no reason.
It is probably due to the need to blow off some steam, which is understandable because they are very traditional in almost every sense, so they don’t have that much liberty to do what they like.
2. They don’t go out too much
Going out to clubs and such is not so common for Indonesian girls, which can make your hunt for an Indonesian girlfriend much harder.
Also, if you are a foreigner, more so, a guy coming from the western countries, you might find this lack of partying and excitement boring.
3. Girls from Indonesia are way too traditional
Speaking of Indonesian girls being too traditional, there are several not so great things about it, especially if you want to get Indonesian women in bed and have some fun.
It is almost impossible to have a one-night stand with Indonesian girls, unless you are lucky enough to find Indonesian women from more liberal families, who can easily be recognized because they usually wear modern clothes, rather than being all covered up.
4. Your wallet will suffer
Another bad thing that comes out of the traditional beliefs of Indonesian girls is that men have to provide for them for everything.
There are exceptions to this, such as those more liberal women, but if you get into a relationship with strictly traditional Indonesian girls, then you will need to be prepared to spend a lot of money on them.
How to Make an Indonesian Woman Fall in Love with You
Even though you know where and how to meet Indonesian girls and what are Indonesian girls like in relationships, would you know what to do when you meet them?
Probably not, but that’s where I will help you. I will give you some tips for dating an Indonesian woman, so your hunt for sexy Indonesian girls is successful.
1. Wear something classy and make the first move
All women around the world like when men are dressed nicely. However, in culturally traditional countries, such as Indonesia, it is even more important.
So, before you go out, make sure to put wear your best outfit, make your hair and beard look good and work on your stature.
That will definitely help you to hook up with some sexy Indonesian girls since they like confident men who will make the first move.
You will never see Indonesian girl making a move on you, so you will have to be the one to do it, without worrying too much about whether she will reject you or not.
2. Respect their ways
When it comes to dating foreign women, it is very important to understand how dating even works in that country.
So, if you want to be successful in hooking up with Indonesian girls, make sure to do some research about Indonesia and its culture.
That way, you will be able to impress hot girls and act according to their beliefs, which would definitely surprise them and make them think that you really care about them since you made effort to do some research about their ways.
3. Don’t try to be cheap
One downside of Indonesian girls being too traditional is that you will need a lot of money to provide for them, especially if you decide to take it seriously and date them longer.
They are used to men providing for their families since the society is quite traditional when it comes to the men’s role in the family.
Therefore, don’t be cheap and buy them something nice from time to time, and also pay the bill on your first date, so she understands that you know how dating works in her country.
4. Get them out to some fancy place
Since most Indonesian girls don’t go out too much, you should definitely get her out to some fancy place, where she can meet some people and feel free from cultural oppression.
That way, you will make her happy, and later she might make you happy too, to express how grateful she really is.
5. Treat their families like your own
If an Indonesian girl invites you to her place, that means that you will most likely meet her family or close relatives, since their homes are always busy.
In other words, this might also be a test for you, since she will want to know whether you can respect her family.
To show her how much you like her, you should respect her family members and make them feel comfortable around you.
The Most Beautiful Indonesian Women
Before I wrap up this international dating guide about pretty Indonesian girls, I want to share my opinion of what are the hottest Indonesian women.
Therefore, I made a list of top 3 the most beautiful Indonesian chicks that are famous, not just in Indonesia, but worldwide.
Keep in mind that I put women I like on this list, so you might not agree with me. But feel free to share your own opinion in the comment section because I would really like to see your thoughts about who are the most beautiful Indonesian girls.
1. Olla Ramlan
Febiolla Ramlan, commonly known as Olla Ramlan, was born on February 15, 1980, in Banjarmasin, South Kalimantan in Indonesia.
She is a popular Indonesian model, presenter, socialite and TV personality, and also one of the most beautiful Indonesian women.
She has 10 siblings, while she herself is the sixth child. Her career started when she had managed to get into the finals for Mode Cover Girl K in 2007.
She started as a model, but later began to act in soap operas, such as “Shakila”, “Perempuan”, “Cinta Indah”, “OKB”, “Mata Air Surga”, and “Nada Cinta”.
Apart from that, she was in several video clips and singles, as well as in a movie from 2008, called “Suami-suami Takut Istri The Movie”.
Also, she worked as a TV host in Dahsyat on RCTI, as well as recorded several commercial advertisements for Nescafe, Yahoo, Sharp, and Magnum. Back in November 2010, she was selected to be a brand ambassador for Yahoo OMG!
2. Gita Gutawa
Aluna Sagita Gutawa, otherwise known as Gita Gutawa is 26, and she was born in the capital of Indonesia, Jakarta, and she is a famous actress, songwriter, and soprano.
You could say that she got her talent from her father, who is a popular composer called Erwin Gutawa, so it doesn’t surprise that she is so talented for music.
At first, she studied piano but decided that her talent is better spent on vocals, so she switched to that, which was a complete success.
She became popular in 2004, after one of her vocal training. Right after that, she was hired to perform in a duet with ADA Band, called “Heaven of Love”, recorded the next year, which was quite successful since it was sold in over 800 thousand copies.
That was a pretty good success, so Sony Music Indonesia decided to offer her to make a solo album, which was the complete success as well.
After that initial success, she recorded two other albums called “Harmoni Cinta” in 2009 and “Balada Shalawat” in 2010.
Apart from just being a successful musician, she acted in soap operas, more precisely, in the two of them, where she played main characters. The operas were called “Ajari Aku Cinta” and “Ajari Lagi Aku Cinta”.
She was also musical “Meraih Mimpi” and appeared on the big screen for the first time in 2010 in the movie called “Love in Perth”
For all her accomplishments, she managed to get a couple important awards, amongst which the most noticeable is Best Newcomer at the Anugerah Musik Indonesia in 2008, as well as winning the International Children Song Festival, which was the 6th of its kind and was held in Cairo.
3. Agni Pratistha
Her full name is Agni Pratistha Arkadewi Kuswardono, and she is one of the most beautiful women and the most successful actresses from Indonesia. However, her birthplace is in a different country, more precisely, in Canberra, Australia.
One interesting fact about her name is that it translates to “invocation of the God of Fire” since Agni is translated as God of Fire and Pratistha is translated as invocation. Her sister, Sigi Wimala is also a quite popular actress in Indonesia.
She grew up in Jakarta, where she managed to win her first competition in 2006, called the Puteri Indonesia competition, which is basically the other name for Miss Universe Indonesia.
Because of that, she was able to represent Indonesia at the Miss Universe competition next year, which was organized in Mexico City.
Thanks to that, she gained a bit of popularity and started working as an Executive Editor for Cosmogirl Indonesia from 2007-2010, which opened new possibilities for her and helped her become an entrepreneur.
She is married to Ryan Anthony Monoarfa, and they worked together to found Ark Motion Images and Chubby Max brand of cookies.
Apart from that, she managed to get the award at the Asia Model Festival Awards in Seoul, all the way back in 2012, for contributing to the popularity of the Indonesian fashion and film industry.
During her career, she has acted in 6 movies, from 2004-2018, starting with a debut in “Mengejar Matahari” in 2004, while the last one has been “Message Man” in 2018.
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I hope you liked this Indonesian women guide. You’ve learned where and how to meet them and what Indonesian women are like in relationships and in the bedroom.
If you decide to travel to Indonesia and try to hook up with sexy girls, feel free to let me know how it went in the comment section.
And make sure you use the ultimate guide for online dating to increase your chances of success with sexy Indonesian girls.