During my travels across the world, one of the inevitable destinations I visited is the continent where the human race planted its roots and began developing into humans we are today. I am of course talking about Africa.
If you are new here, make sure to check out all the women’s country guides to see how South African women compare in all categories.
While there, I had to visit the southernmost country – South Africa and experience international dating there.
So here you will find what is it like to be dating South African women and break any South African girl stereotypes that are out there.
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12 Most Important Traits of South African Women Rated 1-10 (+ Overall Score)
Before we jump to the specifics, let me first describe what are women of South Africa like with some traits that most of you will hopefully find useful.
What Physical Traits Distinguish South African Women from Other Women
1. Physical Appearance
Now I don’t know if you are aware of it, but in general African women are very beautiful.
I don’t mean only their face – I will talk about it in specifics later, but I mean in general. They are what some would say a complete package.
Typical South African women are very attractive. They have pretty face with big round eyes, hot body with curves at just the right places and long fit legs.
As for the South African women’s body type, it varies a lot from woman to woman. I mean, you can find really tall, thin girls that prefer wearing tight clothes and be amazed, but you can also find a bit shorter girls that are not so slim and still be dazzled how good they look.
When you first see South African girls, you will also notice that something they wear is just not for them, even though you are not that into fashion. I guess it is because of the retailers’ problem, but I will tell you more about it later.
As for the total physical appearance, I was surprised rather well. Unlike in Scandinavian countries, where most women are blonde, tall and thin, South African girls are completely different, but in a good way.
They usually have long dark hair, and it is often curly hair. Now if you are like me, you would like it very much. Their hair is so curly you can get lost in it. They also take care of it regularly so once they go out, they look simply amazing.
As for their bodies, it is not common to see completely skinny girls. I guess it is because of the beauty standard in the whole of Africa, where it is much better to have a bit more meat on their bones than in other places.
However, it is far from ugly. A big number of South African women take care of their bodies, so when it comes to their looks, it is perfect. They have just enough, but more importantly, it is in all right places.
Their waist and hips are of different sizes, so it highlights their ass, which is a sight for sore eyes, even if they are not regular at the gym.
When it comes to their health the situation is a little complicated, so let me explain.
South African girls, as I said before, take care of their looks, but also watch out for their health as much as it is possible.
They are very careful of what they eat so they don’t disrupt their bodies, and also are often at some kind of workout.
That doesn’t necessarily need to be a gym. They spend a lot of time outside, and prefer running and jogging with friends, or just going to the outside workout places. So if you are a nature person and you like spending time at the beach or in the park, you will see a lot of sexy South African women there.
They also are not scrooges when it comes to cosmetics. Especially creams and lotions for their skin.
Like most of the girls out there, they like to spend time shopping for everything and anything that will make them look pretty. God-given beauty is not enough for them, and sexy South African girls need to find suitable skincare equipment.
What is the downside? The general healthcare system is not that perfect. It is not as developed as in the Western countries, so they find stuff to keep them healthy mostly by themselves.
3. How stylish they are?
When it comes to their wardrobe, it is a tricky deal here also.
One thing I noticed after spending some time there is that girls usually choose many casual outfits than at the other countries I have been to.
You will mostly see them wearing loose jeans, a bit wide t-shirts and sweatshirts or hoodies, or something like that.
The good thing is that they know to combine it well, and it looks pretty good in general. What caught my eye is that it is usually a bit wider than us guys would prefer.
Now I don’t know about you, but I like to see girls wearing tight pants with a shirt or blouse, even some nice dresses. It is not that common with pretty South African girls.
I talked about that with one of my ex-South African girlfriend, and she told me it is very difficult to find suitable clothes for them.
Since most of the retailers import clothes from Western countries, there is some kind of mix up with the size of clothes.
So even if they prefer wearing some other type of clothes, it would be difficult for them to find what fits them best, and they would need to spend extra time looking for it.
Once you start dating South African girls, you will see for yourself too, and once you do share your experience in the comments section.
4. Facial beauty
Like I said some time ago, international dating in South Africa is something you will love doing. The biggest reason is of course because South African girls are just so beautiful!
They are blessed with good genes in that area and don’t need much to take your breath away.
The majority of women are Black Africans, and one of the traits of all black people is that they usually have extremely clear skin.
That means no pimples, no acne, and no scars on their skin, especially on their face. Even if they do, they are very good at putting on make-up, so if they have some let’s say irregularities, they conceal it quite well.
Also, a great thing because it is they don’t put too much make-up. They use it every day, but they don’t put too much of it. They are aware of how pretty they are, and they use just enough to make it perfect.
They have a bit prolonged face with kind of pointy chin. Big round and dark eyes complement the pigment of their skin, and high cheekbones go extremely well together.
But the best part is their mouth. They have a big mouth with at least one of the lips being puffy. It just makes you want to kiss and bite them a little. And when they smile they reveal perfectly regular white teeth.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the four physical trait ratings for South African women, we have also created our own additional rating from the South African girls we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the single women and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of South Africa and took note of how many beautiful women there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet South African women. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
What Different Personality Traits South African Women Have from Other Women
1. Do they Like Going out and Having Fun?
Now as for the South Africans in general, they are a bit traditionalists. That, of course, doesn’t mean they don’t know how to have fun. It is a very vibrant country with a lot of places you can enjoy.
When it comes to going clubbing and spending nights dancing your ass off at the clubs, it is not that common thing for single South African women.
They would much rather spend nights hanging out with friends at some bars, or just chilling by the beach. It is a much common thing for them, and they take great advantage of it during the week.
That doesn’t mean there aren’t places you can go out at night, of course not. There are plenty of clubs you can hook up with hot South African women and if you are an American man looking for South African women, you will appreciate my traveler’s guide through Cape Town.
A good thing also is that South Africans aren’t that restrictive when it comes to alcohol. They like to have a few when they go out, so that is a big plus once you try to meet South African girls at nightclubs.
2. Chill Factor
In general, South Africans are quite calm people. They don’t stress much in everyday life and are grateful for what they have.
I guess it is just the way they are raised, or maybe because they are aware of what people in neighboring countries are going through.
So it would be a bit hard for you to make your South African girl mad at you. I mean, sure, if you want to you can do it, but there probably wouldn’t be a plausible reason for it. Then, why would you do it, right?
The most terrible thing you can do is play with her, and even worse, play with her trust and end up disappointing her. Then you can be in a little bit of a pickle.
But unlike South American girls for example, who have a rather fiery temper, South African girls will hold their chins up and just leave the situation calmly.
Now yes, you will not have problems with her or getting yourself feel ashamed in front of the others, but you might have problems with her men friends.
And trust me, you do not want to get in trouble with them.
When it comes to loyalty, South African women are one of the most loyal girls out there. They are very family-oriented too, and once they accept you as their partners some time into a relationship, you become something like family to them
She will be all yours and other guys wouldn’t be even in the furthest corner of their minds. That says a lot about what are South African women like in relationships.
Of course, that is expected to go both ways, so if you are a kind of guy who likes to scribble around the neighborhood, looking for other girls, maybe it is best not to start anything serious, as you will automatically be expelled from their family’s circle of trust.
And probably out of your South African girl life for good.
4. Good as Mothers
Once again, South Africans are quite a family nation. They respect all of their family members and take care of their families in both good and bad times.
From their young age, South African girls start helping out their moms around the house. It can be anything, from cleaning the rooms of the house to preparing some food and taking care of their younger siblings.
So once they are old enough to start their own families, and get husbands and children, they are well experienced in the area and know exactly what to do and how to raise children the best way possible.
That means that if you are more of a serious guy who is thinking about finding himself the woman from South Africa and start a family, it is a great place for you.
5. Meeting and Talking to New People
South Africa is a country where people with a lot of different backgrounds live. You can find people from all across the world there. Plus, it is a very big and developed country that offers a lot of opportunities for everyone.
So when it comes to meeting and talking to new people, South Africans are as outgoing as it can be.
They like meeting new people, getting to know them, spending some chill time with them and just hang out. They will welcome new people with a big smile and an open heart and will make friends easily.
That also goes for girls there, too.
South African girls are not afraid of foreigners and would very much like to engage in a conversation with them.
So if you find yourself in a bar or a cafe, don’t hesitate to approach the ladies you saw. They will be open to conversation and who knows, it might lead to something good after a while.
And, yes, I am saying after a while, unfortunately.
Unless you are a Casanova of South Africa, you probably will not have the chance to see what are South African women like in bed the night you meet her. They are not easy, boy! 🙂
What they like is for you to be funny, and not as honest as you would think so. I don’t say you should lie to them and get caught, that is stupid.
But play their game, tell them what they want to hear, flirt and be funny and you might even be into a good surprise.
6. Are they Romantic?
As for the romantic side, us guys have a really good treat when it comes to dating a South African girl.
Now, I don’t know about you guys, but I am not exactly a romantic kind of guy. I don’t like to watch rom-coms with my girl that often, and can’t exactly organize a romantic date.
Ordering a pizza, or going to some regular restaurant is more my kind of thing, and whenever I did something more than that with my exes from South Africa, they were well surprised.
So, I concluded that they are not just suckers for romance. I mean, sure, everyone loves when you give him/her attention. So buying her some flowers occasionally or something like that will get you a long way.
But even if you don’t do so, you have nothing to worry about.
They much more prefer just spending time with you doing nothing, than some random romantic gestures that they know are not what you are.
Sex with South African women is pretty damn good!
They know what they are doing in the bedroom – they are not afraid to please you, but also like to take control of the situation and just use you as a personal pleaser.
Once you experience South African girls in bed, you will realize there are many more ways both you and she can make yourselves enjoy sex. They are a real fire in the sack!
She will fulfill all your fantasies, but you mustn’t be shy! If you are shy, you can ruin everything and she can dump you very quickly!
South African girls take sex as a very important part of a relationship and are looking for a man who knows what he likes, and is not afraid to ask for it and also take it.
So, get ready for the action of what you like, and prepare for amazing nights… and days.
8. Gringo Card – How Likely are They to Date Foreigners
I mentioned before that the South African Republic is a big country with a lot of different people. You can literally find people from every continent there.
So it shouldn’t come as a surprise that single South African girls don’t have anything against foreigners.
As I said before, they are very outgoing people, and they like to have fun, so it doesn’t matter where you are from.
They don’t mind at all!
You just have to be good enough for them by giving them one or two interesting nights and they will be all over you in no time.
South African women have been identified as the most voluptuous in the world – from the waist down.
Want to see big, sexy, and perfectly round butts? Go to Cape Town, Durban, or Johannesburg.
These stunning women are so pretty and accommodating, and that explains why so many men travel from all over the world to visit.
Are there other qualities that set these women apart from the pack?
Read below and also check out incredible photos from Instagram.
Where to Meet South African Women
So you have read some characteristic traits of South African females, but you are again wondering: where and how to meet South African girls.
And, here it is, divided into two parts – online and in-person meeting girls of South Africa.
So one of the ways to meet a South African woman is surely online. There are a lot of single South African women spending time online looking for men, and the best website you can do so is www.afrointroductions.com.
It is a website meant only for meeting African people online, so it is not only used in South Africa. You can meet singles in the U.S, the U.K, other African countries, but above all, in the South African Republic of course!
Signing up is rather simple, like in the most other websites of that kind. You just need to enter your basic information, like your gender, your age, who are you looking for, etc.
The important part is also to fulfill what kind of things do you like and maybe what kind of places would you like to visit, but also what kind of person are you looking for.
Are you looking for something serious, or just hanging out? Maybe just a one night stand? Be sure to write it down as well as your preferences as it will help with narrowing down chicks for you.
After that, you are ready to browse through the profile photos of members and engage in conversations with them. You can also filter out what kind of women do you want by their traits, as the site offers that option as well.
Once you find someone you find okay, send her a message. However, if you want to engage in a video or even audio call (like Skype) you need to be a premium member, which you need to pay.
It is a great website for meeting new girls at first, and I went on 2 dates after I connected with some girls and I was very pleasantly surprised.
Traveler’s Guide for Meeting South African Women
But if you are a person, like myself, who is more interested in approaching South African chicks in person, the best places to do so is the amazing city of Cape Town.
1. Cape Town
Cape Town, or as it is colloquially called Mother City, is one of the biggest cities in the South African Republic. It is also one of the capitals of the country and is a very old and beautiful city.
It is a city where almost four million people live, which makes it the second biggest city in the country, there is every type of girl you can imagine there.
It is very easy to meet South African girls there, as most of them are much less traditional and like I said before, like to meet new people and hang out with foreigners.
During the day, you can see sexy South African girls hanging out at the beach playing beach volleyball or just chilling with their friends. It is not uncommon also to see them sitting in some cafes having a drink.
But the best time to approach ladies in South Africa is when the sun starts to go down.
Then it is time to hit some bars first, grab a few drinks and make your first moves for the night. Here are a couple of bars that I had a great time and where I met some of the best South African girls:
- Cause Effect – located in the Victoria & Alfred Waterfront, it is an amazing bar with great cocktails. It is open until 1 AM, and it is a great place to start your night.
- Frogitt & Vonkel – great bar for wine lovers. Locals love it too, and the owner likes to check up on his guests and see if everything is okay. Amazing service, and a must-visit for everyone.
- Chinchilla – located right on the beach, you can literally throw stones into the ocean. Its amazing view and refreshing cocktails on the rooftop are great for hot summer days.
- Aces n Spades – a place where you can both finish and end your night, this rock ‘n’ roll bar offers live music every Friday night which you need to visit.
- The Jagger Lounge – a lounge that often hosts talented local artists, they offer a wide range of wines and beers you need to try.
- RED Roof, Radisson Red Hotel – placed on top of the Radisson Red Hotel, it offers views on both the beach and amazing mountain just by Cape Town.
So, after you have started your night, I recommend you go into some nightclub – so here are my picks for the best nightclubs in Cape Town:
- The District – one of the hottest places in the city, it is a huge nightclub with a different kind of music every night. Whether you like electronic music, hip hop or live events, this is where to meet a South African woman
- Cacoon Cape Town – more of an elite kind of nightclub, it is placed on the 31st floor of the famous Ibsa Building. You can choose, to enjoy the view through the window, to enjoy the hip-hop/dance electronic/house music, or to enjoy views of hot South African girls.
- Shimmy Beach Club – an excellent entertainment spot in the city. In summer, there is no better night club out there, and you can almost every day enjoy local and international DJs, whether on the beach dance floor or in one of the VIP seating areas.
- Chez Ntemba Nightclub – “Dancehall Thursdays”, “On Fleek Fridays” or “Africano Sundays” – you can choose. Part of the international brand with places in 41 African countries, it is an amazing nightclub to meet local chicks.
Pros and Cons of Dating a South African Woman
Before making any big decision, a good thing to do is make a pros and cons list. But, you don’t have to do it yourself for this topic, as I will do it for you in detail.
1. They are real beauties!
Dating a South African woman is an absolute pleasure, firstly because of how good they look!
They are just beauties!
And everyone likes some pretty woman for himself. They are beautiful from top to bottom, without questions asked.
With their long curly hair, you can get lost into, to an amazing smile that will blow your mind and so kissable lips. Once you kiss them, you will see for yourself!
Most of them have a bit smaller waist than their hips, and a big ass just complements it even more. You just cannot love it!
2. South African women are smart and ambitious
Now, I didn’t write too much about this, but it is something you need to know before you start your international dating experience in South Africa.
There are some South African women stereotypes out there that say how they don’t have access to good education and are a bit neglected.
From my experience, that is not the case.
Most of the South African women I’ve met were college graduates and working for some of the companies in Cape Town. Some of them were even trying to start their businesses, and they were skilled in doing so.
So one of the good things about them is that they are really smart and are not afraid to make their own business moves, which speaks of their ambition.
3. They are fantastic mothers
Even though they are looking to prosper in their careers and as businesswomen, that doesn’t mean they don’t look out for their children.
Like I said before, from their young age their moms ask them to help around the house with the stuff they can help with, and pretty soon help with their younger siblings.
So they gain skills needed for raising children, and once they do have kids, they will guide them on the right path.
That doesn’t mean that you will not have any say in it – you won’t only if you don’t want to. But she will try to engage as you as much as possible with the activities, which leads me to the next good thing…
4. Family leaders
If you are wondering what are South African women like, and are looking for the answer in one word, that would definitely be the leader.
They really know how to understand the situation they are in. They understand emotions quite well and know how to deal with all kinds of people.
Also, they notice the small things that can escalate into problems sometime after and are not afraid to take some steps towards fixing those things.
So when it comes to family, they are the ones who are keeping the family together.
Once she feels that your relationship is starting to get serious, you will notice a slight change in her behavior.
She will stop paying that much attention to other guys and will openly admit that they don’t interest her not even a tiny bit because she is with you.
And from that moment on, she will be as loyal as it gets, but beware – she will expect the same thing from you.
Just like there are good things about dating South African girls, there are also downsides of it:
1. No second chances
Now, I don’t mean this about some small stuff. We are all human and everyone makes mistakes – that is a logical thing.
And if you ask South African girls, they would say the same thing. It is only normal to make some mistakes on the way.
That’s just what are South African women like.
But what am I saying here is that if you do something big and really stamp on her feeling and her trust, you are out of the game, for good.
I mean, for good.
Once you lose her trust, it would take a miracle to gain it back. So be extra careful about it and don’t let your mistake be the end of a good relationship.
2. No cheating
As I said, South African women are as loyal as it can be. Once they feel they are comfortable with you and start to develop some feelings towards you, you can be sure they will not be cheating on you.
However, in her mind, it goes both ways.
So if you are more of a free spirit guy and like to have other hicks on the side for you, you will almost impossibly convince your South African girlfriend that that is okay.
So you might want to reconsider swirling around while dating her because their siblings are also very protective and are looking about their little sis.
3. Protective friends
Now, this isn’t that much exposed and typical for all South Africans, but it can happen.
They can be really protective of each other. Sometimes it can be hard for you to establish a normal communication with your girlfriend because of her friends. They can be scheming something about you, also.
However, it is not that common, so you might not even have to deal with it.
How to Make a South African Woman Fall in Love with You
So, you saw what are South African girls like in relationships, and now let’s see how can you make one fall for you:
1. Know what you want
A very important thing is to know what you want with the girl you meet. Even more important, is to tell her.
But of course, I don’t mean be as straight-forward is it is possible, haha. Right in the center!
No, no… have a clear goal what you want, but find just good enough combination of words so that she is interested in what you have to say and offer, but also not for her to feel like you are only wanting to see what are South African women in bed like.
Like I said if you only want to get in her panties, you need to be on top of your game, but make sure you know what you want, as she will remember you for that.
2. Show your ambition and dreams
I mentioned before that most of the South African girls are very ambitious and well educated.
They are striving to achieve something out of themselves and really try hard to make an impact on their country and the whole world.
Nothing can scare her when it comes to ambition, and that is actually what she will appreciate very much.
So once you start to get to know her, don’t be shy, and tell her what is your dream job, what kind of impact would you like to have on the world and what do you think is the best way to go.
That is my number one South African women dating tips.
And trust me, nothing can scare her off.
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The Most Beautiful South African Women
Alright, so you have read everything I learned about South African dating culture. I hope you will implement some of the things you learned and it will give you an advantage with hot South African girls.
Now, for the end, here is the list of top 3 hottest South African women.
1. Nomzamo Mbatha
Born in the summer of 1990, this almost 30 years old beauty is simply stunning!
She is a successful businesswoman, model, actress, human rights activist, and TV host, with less than 10 years in the business.
She started as an actress for a TV show that later turned into a soap opera, and in 2015 landed her first movie role.
I am sure in the future we will see more of her on the big screens.
2. Nandi Madida
Nandi Madida is a famous South African musician, media personality, businesswoman and women activist.
Her singing career sky-rocketed in 2011, when she released the hit single called “Tonight” which became a huge hit in the SAR.
In 2018, she started her own TV show called “Med in Africa”, and she is famous across the whole nation for her inner drive and focusing her influence on driving good in people.
3. Pearl Thusi
Pearl Thusi was born on May 13th, 1988, in the Eastern Part of the South African Republic. She began her acting career from a young age, but really made a breakthrough in the 2009 BBC/HBO TV series “The No.1 Ladies’ Detective Agency”.
In 2016, she starred in the ABC TV thriller series “Quantico”, and this year we can expect her new TV show called “Queen Sono” on Netflix in which she is a lead role.
Well, there you have it guys!
That’s it for this South African women guide. I have shared my South African girl dating tips, where and how to meet a South African girl.
If you are there, make sure to use what you learned, as it will give you a good head-start once you start international dating there. You can also find more tips in my Ultimate Guide to dating women.