Have you ever been with a Dutch girl? Would you like to learn more about dating Dutch women?
If you are new here, make sure to check out all the women’s country guides to see how Dutch women compare in all categories.
Take time to check out my comprehensive international dating guide, because it will help you break all those annoying Dutch girl stereotypes.
Of course, there’s no better way to make this guide more complete, but spicing it up with tons of alluring Instagram accounts and super-sexy pics. Together with my story here, they will help you fully understand what are Dutch women like.
Stay tuned and discover how to meet Dutch women. There will be a whole bunch of tips for dating a Dutch woman.
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12 Most Important Traits of Dutch Women Rated 1-10 (+ Overall Score)
What you will frequently hear about hot Dutch girls is that they are brutally honest and extremely comfortable with themselves.
Okay, Brazilian ladies are hot tango dancers, Russian ladies are devoted mothers, Irish chicks drink a lot, and similar are just some of the common prejudices you often hear.
There are tons of Dutch women stereotypes as well, such as them being arrogant, cold, not interested in other people’s feelings and so on.
But no lady is the same, and they are certainly much more than just a bunch of prototypical features and characteristics.
Some of these sayings may be genuine, the others are just speculations, and the truth is somewhere in the middle.
Here’s my first-hand guide where you will get a fully insightful report about adorable girls of Netherlands.
What Physical Traits Distinguish Dutch Women from Other Women
1. Physical appearance
I may freely say that they are of ideal proportions, with an average height of around 180cm, or 5′ 10″.
Perhaps a bit taller than usual, but if you don’t mind having a chick that’s slightly taller than you, it really doesn’t matter.
As for Dutch women’s body type, they are often compared to girls from Sweden, but the bone structure is not the same.
Ladies from the Netherlands have a bit stronger faces, which adds more value to their character.
Their beauty is natural, and they don’t have cosmetic surgeries.
They are mainly blonde, but some of them will dye the hair to become brunettes.
Sexy Dutch women are in excellent condition because they walk and ride a bike a lot.
Okay, I’m a guy, it’s not up to me to judge, but if you see like thousands of campaigns and commercials raising awareness of the importance of women’s intimate health, then ladies should be responsible.
So, when I heard that in the Netherlands, the logic goes like “if there’s no complaint, don’t fix it”, I was kinda shocked.
Their health care is not as professional as in some other parts of the world, which comes as a surprise to foreigners living in this country. (until they get used to it)
They don’t do regular check-ups like women in the US, for example.
Nevertheless, they are of quite average health, without any major issues.
3. How stylish they are?
Pretty Dutch girls like to wear something comfortable, rather than something elegant and sophisticated, like Italian ladies, for example.
If I were to define typical Dutch girls buy clothes, the combination would include some denim (slim or skinny fit), cozy sweaters and boots or white sneakers.
And the messy bun!
While some women will spend hours and hours trying to make their hair look good (or at least acceptable enough to be seen outside), Dutch females have a sort of hairdryerfobia.
Women in French will pay special attention to their style, trying to look impressive, and Dutch women don’t care a lot about it.
Casual clothes are their trademark and it fits perfectly their daily tempo.
You see, this is the country where you will be walking and cycling more than you have ever done in your life, so what you need is comfy clothes.
One may comment that they would look more masculine because of the absence of obsession with fashion, but I didn’t get such an impression, to be honest.
4. Facial beauty
Undoubtedly the most beautiful thing about beautiful Dutch girls is their mesmerizing eyes.
Irish girls have blue eyes, chicks in Denmark as well, but none of them look as impressive as the ones seen on women of the Netherlands.
Some of them have full and juicy lips, which contributes to their overall voluptuous look.
Their noses are of average size, not too small but still present, and the entire face, which is usually oval has some charismatic and natural look.
That only makes them even more gorgeous.
The eyebrows are usually thin and placed somewhat lower.
As far as I could notice, they are not particularly obsessed with make-up, because their faces already look clean, refreshing and beautiful.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the physical trait ratings for Dutch women, we have also created our own additional rating from the Dutch Women men we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of Dutch and took note of how many handsome men there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Dutch women. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
What Different Personality Traits Dutch Women Have from Other Women
You have heard that Filipinas like karaoke, that girls from Brazil (and people in general) are not quite comfortable with talking with foreigners, but what are sexy Dutch girls like?
Do you wanna know more about Dutch women in bed?
Stay tuned to find out!
1. Do they Like Going out and Having Fun?
Absolutely! It’s an excellent match of open-mindedness and avoidance of excess.
The fact that the country has quite a liberal attitude towards some aspects (sexual orientation, intimacy, and drugs) resulted in people not being conservative at all.
But they are neither promiscuous, you know.
When you hear people acting crazy and wild while in Amsterdam for example, it’s mainly foreigners whose homelands are not as open as this country is.
When beautiful Dutch girls have fun, they do it with style and measure. And, oh, boy, Dutch girls in bed… later on that one!
2. Chill Factor
When someone has such an open mind and has no taboo topics while communicating with others, this comes as a natural consequence.
They are full of energy and positive attitude, they are always in for action, but they never make a fuss about it.
When you have them as friends, you can expect them to be 100% loyal and completely honest with you.
The same would go if the relationship is a serious one.
On the other hand, if both of you agree that there are no strings attached, that either of you two can be adventurous with someone else, it’s expected that she could use the opportunity given.
4. Good as Mothers
Well, this is a bit tricky. They are more focused on their careers and professional development.
Unlike women from Ukraine, who will selflessly devote the entire being to the motherhood, Dutch ladies will, even when they do become mothers, be still more oriented towards the job.
On the other hand, they are believed to be the happiest moms in the world- because they don’t feel guilty, they sleep well, they have help from the husband…
5. Meeting and Talking to New People
Of course. They may not be quite interested in chit-chatting, they rather go straight to the point, so if you are looking for a devoted and real friend, you can find one in the Netherlands.
If you are familiar with this aspect of their personality, you can have quite a great time hanging out with hot Dutch women.
6. Are they Romantic?
Flowers, candies, Nah, forget those. Girls from other parts of the world may fall for them, but not Dutch ladies.
With them, you need to have a completely different approach, and try to conquer them with some down-to-earth things, not silly and sweet words.
Those might just ruin the whole thing.
If you want to hear what are Dutch women like in bed, you’ll be glad to know that there will be plenty of chances to discover that for yourself.
They are not immoral or sluttish, not at all.
They are simply willing to explore, and there’s nothing bad about it, right?
The society promotes equality among genders, and nobody judges women who are interested in being intimate with a man whenever they want.
8. Gringo Card – How likely are They to Date a Foreigner?
I think this one should be more like “How likely are foreigners to date a Dutch woman?”
If a man is ready to accept them the way they are, with all the cultural differences, their directness, dominant attitude, and so on, they won’t mind at all where a guy is coming from.
They accept people, nationality doesn’t matter at all.
From Amsterdam- Rotterdam-Den Haag, you will encounter women with natural beauty.
Dutch women have mesmerizing eyes, full lips, and an average size nose that gives them an appealing look.
Despite the cultural differences, foreign men flock to them easily because the country has a lot of tourist attractions.
They have learned to be open-minded to all without losing their identity.
As you read on, you will know more about the pros and cons of dating them.
Where to Meet Dutch Women?
If you are looking for some good place where to meet Dutch girls and find out what are Dutch women like in relationships, you have two possible options.
You can either take a walk through the city where you stay in, visit bars, clubs, etc, or you can give the chance to the online world of dating.
It’s far away from taboo, as many people managed to find their love that way, so allow me to give you some highlights for both scenarios:
When looking for the right online place where to meet a Dutch woman, you will naturally have plenty of doubts about whether the platform is legit or not.
The one I found to be the best belongs to the widely popular Friends Date network, which has a 100% guarantee that the services available on their site are free of charge.
This means a lot, as it gives you the chance to explore a site bit, check out single Dutch girls and see how the whole thing with international dating on the internet works.
You will also encounter some super useful tips on what to do when you meet Dutch girls, and give you a hint about the crucial points of Dutch dating culture.
The platform is simple to use and navigate, and it’s optimized for mobile devices as well, so you can search through the rich base of Dutch chicks waiting to meet someone using this great dating site.
Registration is quick and simple, it requires just several minutes.
Traveler’s Guide for Meeting Dutch Women
However, if you are interested in good old small talk in clubs and cafes, I created my top three list with some highlights from these memorable cities and listed some cool places worth visiting.
If you are an American man looking for Dutch women, do keep in mind that you won’t use the same strategy as with French ladies of women from Japan.
The sole fact that this country is quite liberal regarding some aspects, doesn’t mean chicks will running into your hug and bed just like that.
If you are in some of the listed cities, you will learn a lot about the culture, history and the energy of this nation, and that’s the first step for successful dating with single Dutch women.
There will be tons of suggestions and cool places to meet a Dutch woman.
Here comes the guide:
Keep in mind that this amazing city is much more than just sex, drugs and R’N’R.
Yeas, some would call it a heaven for all the sins (oh, how ironic!), but its indeed much more than just having sex wherever you can and cannot imagine, being high all day and night long.
The city has much more than that to offer, and it would be a shame to miss all those beautiful sights.
So many cobbled streets, magnificent canals, astonishing buildings, adorable bridges are just some of the highlights.
Of course, it’s one of the most visited European cities due to the liberal attitude regarding the aforementioned sins, but it’s also hugely popular due to rich history and culture.
This is the city where you can visit Anne Frank’s House or Van Gogh Museum, or Rijksmuseum where you can admire the versatility of Golden Age treasures.
When you want to take a break and relax, here are some good places to have coffee or delicious lunch:
- De Kas
- Restaurant Senses by Lars Bertelsen
- Spectrum (previously Librije’s Zusje)
- Restaurant Daalder
- Brasserie Ambassade
- Blue Pepper
- Restaurant GUTS
I already mentioned how they like using a bicycle, so there’s no better for a foreigner to “go Dutch” but to accept this amusing and healthy habit.
It’s an excellent way to discover the entire city.
In case you haven’t done it so far, you should try the ride in the canal boat, as it will give you another and very impressive perspective of the city.
Of course, it will be hard to resist not to give a sneak peek at nightlife out there, having heard so much about globe-wide popular Red-Light District.
I mean, you only live once, so if you are already in Amsterdam, do whatever your heart and curiosity want.
Here are some cool clubs you can visit:
- Warehouse Elementenstraat
- Club Mistique
- The Cave Rock Club
- The Smallest Disco in the World
- De Marktkantine
- Fun House
- Bourbon Street
- BonTon Stripclub Amsterdam
This city is quite a unique place where you can feel “gezellig”.
It’s one of those hard to translate but simple the experience words, and it means feeling cozy, pleasant, leaving all the troubles behind.
If you let this city steal your heart and enjoy every single inch of it wholeheartedly- you will get the true meaning of this word.
If you are looking for a city that reflects the best the meaning of the word “innovation”, then Rotterdam is the one.
Following WWII, the city needed to be rebuilt completely, basically from the ground up, which was used as the opportunity to modernize it.
The visionaries created an inspiring and innovative metropolis, implemented all their cutting-edge and revolutionary ideas, avoiding to recreate its look from the Golden Age.
It’s an urban place with world-class architecture, and that’s precisely what attracts so many tourists from all over the world.
Some of the most memorable sights include De Rotterdam Tower, Erasmus Bridge, Markthal and many more.
This city holds the proud title of the largest European port and lots of daily activities are water-related, so to say.
Similar to Amsterdam, it’s an excellent chance to enjoy a pleasurable boat ride and admire the fantastic architecture.
If you are a coffee lover, you will be delighted to hear that this city is crowded with a diversity of cafes, which gather all those who work, study, or just want to chillax.
Here are some of the places you should visit (plus some restaurants in case you get hungry):
- Café de Ooievaar
- NINE BAR espresso
- NOC NOC
- Pol Rotterdam
- Harvest Coffee Brewers
- Nationale- Nederlanden Douwe Egsbert Café
- Sherlock’s place
- Restaurant Bierhandel De Pijp
- Restaurant Fitzgerald
Some describe it as the most multi-cultural city in the Netherlands, and there’s indeed plenty fo concerts, festivals, events.
This is throughout the entire year, so no matter when you visit this city, you will surely catch something interesting going on.
Okay, the nightlife in this city may not be as worldwide famous as in Amsterdam, but it certainly doesn’t mean it lacks quality or energy.
Being a large, modern and vibrant metropolis, its nightlife is equally energetic and vivid.
Here are some good clubs you could check out:
- Rotterdam Bar Crawl
- Club Platinum
- NORA Rotterdam
- Transport Club
- Lounge Club Laxx
- Bar Tender Shooterbar
- De Witte Aap
- The Performance Bar
Some would say that this city is in the shadow of Amsterdam, but I say it’s not.
Each of them has unique energy and vibration, and quite specific vibrations, therefore it will attract different groups of people.
The ideal would be to visit both of them and have the chance to compare their specific beauties.
3. Den Haag (The Hague)
Many foreigners see this one as the city where businessmen and bureaucrats live, and that’s the first impression you will have.
But scratching a bit underneath the surface, or taking a walk through the city, I mean, you will see much more than that.
It has a very developed cultural scene, as it’s the city where you will find Mauritshius museum, Nederlands Dans Theater, Madurodam and many more.
Unlike the previous two, you won’t find canals, so the best way to explore the city is either by taking a long walk or by tram.
Let’s, not forget the bicycle, which is, like in two previous cities I described, one of the most favorite means of transportation.
Renting a basic one is more than affordable, and that’s the best way to grab the city’s unique energy and enjoy all the magnificent buildings out there.
When you get hungry, here are some nice places you should visit:
- Bar Restaurant Pavlov
- Irawaddy Royal Thai Cuisine
- Indonesisch Restaurant Keraton Damai V.O.F.
- UMAMI by Han
- De Eetkamer Van Scheveningen
- Restaurant Spijs
As you can see, I listed some places where you can also taste various international dishes, not only Dutch specialties.
This city proudly points out its versatility of kitchens, being an excellent choice for gastronomy fans among you.
On the other hand, if you feel like having a tasty cup of coffee, here’s where you may go:
- House of Tribes Café’
- Crunch Café’
- Lola Bikes and Coffee
- Café Madeleine
- Mener Chocola
The fact that this is the city where the Dutch government is accommodated, doesn’t mean it hasn’t got quality and vivid nightlife.
There are various bars, cafes, and clubs to cater to the needs of all types of tourists and their ideas of having a good time.
Grote Markt is the essence of their nightlife, where you will find so many amazing places to hang out and meet numerous Dutch chicks.
Here are some suggestions:
PIP Den Haag
- La Rumbantela Latin Club
- Disco Paparazzi
- House of Submission- Den Haag (I can see those eyebrows raising!)
- Club Breeze
- The Warehouse
- Gekke Geit
As you can see, this amazing city has plenty of things to offer both during the day and when the sun sets as well.
It’s a place where you can find quiet cafes, restaurants with mouth-watering food and lively nightclubs, all of which will undoubtedly provide you a memorable experience.
Pros and Cons of Dating a Dutch Woman
International dating is an endless adventure full of obstacles, ups, and downs, similarities that surprise us and the differences that need to be adjusted.
Dutch girls have their specific personality, and if you want things to work, better equip yourself with patience and tons of Dutch girl dating tips.
Here are the good and the bad aspects of having one of them by your side:
1. They are down to earth
If it happens that you lack charming and flirting skills, or you don’t feel quite comfortable pronouncing those sweet and silly nonsenses, no worries.
The simplest way to conquer a Dutch lady’s heart is to be direct with her.
Juts tell you how you feel, tell her that you like her, all that without spicing it up.
The more you sweeten, the less are the chances to get her attention, trust me.
It goes to that extent that she may never think that you are insane if you talk with her using those common silly stuff some ladies fall for.
2. There are no taboo topics
What goes hand in hand with being direct is the absence of “forbidden” topics to discuss about.
Don’t let it shock you, but they will ask things about religion, sex, and similar sensitive subjects even on the first date.
It simply shows how open-minded they are, and ready to meet every single aspect of the potential partner (you!).
Also, have in mind that they don’t quite care about other people’s feelings, and how will whatever they said to make other people feel.
It’s the bluntness you will simply have to deal with.
3. Dutch ladies value equality
Similar to Danish women, they feel quite comfortable splitting the bills, so don’t be offended if she insists on that.
It’s their way to show that women as well are capable of earning well and paying for dinners, drinks and so on.
They have quite an interesting attitude on money, so instead of showing that you are ready to spend a fortune and throw the money just like that just to impress you, you will reject her.
This nation is famous for being a bit tight with money, so your mission is to show that you can save it, rather than generously spend it on everything without thinking.
4.They are very casual
Dressing up is something they are not comfortable with, which means neither you should be.
If the code doesn’t strictly specify she should be wearing a fancy dress, high heels, and all the accompanying accessories, she’ll gladly wear the first comfy thing she grabs.
It’s not that they don’t have the knack for fashion, they simply don’t mind.
But, with such fantastic natural beauty and charisma they have, they shouldn’t’ worry about it at all.
1. They can be stubborn
Let me tell you something, Dutch girls are always right.
Even if they aren’t, they are.
You have two possible options- either to accept that and agree on whatever she has to say, or run for your life looking for some nationality which is less tenacious.
It’s doesn’t always have to be some negative scenario, but over time it can get a bit annoying, particularly when you DO know that she’s wrong.
2. How about the “group“ first date?
One would see it as a sort of protection shield, the others wouldn’t mind at all, but the fact is that it is a bit awkward.
You may be preparing yourself for a romantic date with her, only to find your Dutch girlfriend surrounded by a bunch of her other friends (male and female) waiting for you.
But, knowing that they are direct, you can simply tell her HOW exactly do you imagine a date with her (just her), and avoid the unpleasant situation.
3. Dutch women can be cautious with letting newcomers in
It fits perfectly the initial theory from the previous point, but it could be just one of my speculations.
But when you are in a bigger company, surrounded by other people she knows, you will probably be the last one she will pay attention to.
If she pays attention to you, after all.
I don’t think they do it on purpose (perhaps they just want to test you, who knows), it’s simply their habit, that’s all.
Perhaps, they actually want to see how serious are you about actually dealing with a Dutch chick.
Not every man is ready to deal with such a strong character, that’s because they may appear to be reserved and cold.
How to Make a Dutch Woman Fall in Love with You
You probably expect me to give you some super cool instant recipe for success, but I’m not going you.
You know what stealing a lady’s heart is not some mechanic bidding on auctions, it’s a process that requires plenty of attention and devotion.
It’s shouldn’t be approached robotically.
However, I do have some extra cool tips that have proven to be successful and working, so I’m gonna share those with you.
Here’s what you should have in mind before you start dating a Dutch girl.
1. Don’t be a gentleman
Okay, I can hear you loudly laughing at this one, but as I told you, they don’t fall for silly small talk.
They are direct with you, so you should be with them as well.
That’s the most direct way to both her heart and attention.
2. You need to have confidence
Sometimes dealing with a relentless Dutch cutie can seriously decrease your self-confidence, because you will constantly be having the feeling that you are doing something wrong.
But you aren’t, it’s just their stubbornness, so be confident and determined.
If you like you and if you feel that she’s worth it, don’t give up.
3. Learn to deal with them being overly dominant
It’s part of their nature, their character, and this you either accept or look for the girl from some other country.
It’s not that they are bossy on purpose, it’s simply part of their personality.
Sometimes you will have to agree on whatever she has to say, without questioning it, but that’s just who they are.
And the sooner you show that you are aware of that, the sooner you two will have quite an enjoyable time and successful relationship.
It’s all part of learning about how to meet a Dutch girl.
4. Don’t ask her to cook for you
Okay, Russian ladies may be delighted to prepare something for you, girls from Italy as well, but don’t expect the same from your Dutch girlfriend.
It will either be sandwiches all the time, take-away meals or restaurants, but homemade delicacies, don’t you even dare to ask.
You know the saying about cooking, the one with man’s heart and stomach. Well, in this case, it’s “The road to Dutch woman’s heart is through her stomach.”
On the other hand, if by any chance, she’s the one to initiate it, accept it wholeheartedly.
5. Be tight with money
Some folks would say that being frugal is a bad thing, as they think it’s the same as being stingy.
But it’s not.
The more creative you are with ideas on how to save money, the bigger are the chances to impress her.
6. Language barrier
For all among us who speak English, learning Dutch is almost a piece of cake.
You’ll be happy to hear that it’s probably the simplest foreign language for English speakers to learn (even easier if you are a native).
It sounds somewhere between English and German, but the biggest catch about this language is its pronunciation.
Dutch has a huge number of words coming from English- appel = apple, tomaat = tomato, groen = green and so on.
It also features numerous words from French and Hebrew, so if you know either of the two, it’s a plus for you, you will learn Dutch even faster.
One thing more- Dutch is full of long, long words…I mean like 38, 41, 53 letters and so on, so the deeper your knowledge is, be prepared to tackle with some quite unusual words.
I did my best to learn a bit of it, and even though it was far from mastering it, it was funny.
On the other hand, most of them are fluent in English, so worry not.
Learning this weird and wonderful language is indeed a great adventure, just like dating chicks from this country.
The Most Beautiful Dutch Women
The thing with Dutch chicks is that their names are overly complicated for an average listener to memorize them, so it may be difficult to list who are the most attractive ladies from this country.
That’s why I came up with this compilation, gathering three hottest Dutch women, just for you.
1. Doutzen Kroes
This adorable model has been L’Oreal Paris’ brand-ambassador since 2006 and is known as one of the most-paid models since 2008.
She’s worked as Victoria Secret’s Angel for six years, from 2008 to 2014.
Born in 1985, she had different aspirations when she was younger, striving to become a pro speed skater.
Even though Doutzen likes to point out that she was like a tomboy during her childhood, almost instantly she became recognized for her extraordinary beauty and graciousness.
One of the most interesting trivia about this gorgeous lady is that there’s a wax figure of her in Madame Tussaud’s museum (the Amsterdam’s branch).
She also had several successful movie appearances, among which the country’s first-ever 3D movie.
Besides successful modeling career and notable appearance in the filming industry, she’s also a huge philanthropist.
Doutzen raises awareness about HIV and AIDS, and she also promotes her mother tongue, Frisian.
She’s married to DJ Sunnery, and they have two children.
2. Chantal Janzen
This fabulous multi-talented woman was born in 1979 and is a popular singer, actress and TV presenter.
She attended the Amsterdam university of vocal arts, where she was taught a diversity of music genres, along with tapdancing and acting.
Moreover, she was also a member of the jury for some widely-popular shows such as Your Face Sounds Familiar, Holland’s Got Talent, etc.
Janzen was also a TV presenter in various programs, mostly music and dance talent shows.
She was widely noticed both for her smooth and pleasant to listen to the voice, but attractive appearance as well.
The most prominent detail about her is one of those most beautiful Dutch traits- adorable, bog blue eyes, which make her look even more impressive.
Although there’s not an extensive list of activities she supported, she did sing a song against cancer with popular rapper, Yes-R.
Her partner is Marco Geeratz, and the couple’s got, two kids.
3. Lieke van Lexmond
Born in 1982, she is, similar to the second lady on my list, both adorable and multi-talented.
She’s not only a popular model and actress but a presenter and singer as well.
Her most renowned role was in the Dutch soap opera, where she played from 2002 to 2011.
Although it may seem insignificant, it’s a huge step in her career, but Goede tijden, slechte tijden is the first-ever and the longest-running soap opera in the Netherlands, who initially started airing in 1990.
After that, she made a decision to focus on some other aspects and try luck with new projects.
She appeared in numerous films and TV shows, always conquering the audience with her wide, honest smile and lovely eyes.
Her husband is Bas van Veggel, and the couple has two sons. They got married in 2016, in Italy.
Hot Dutch Beauties on Instagram
I hope you enjoyed learning more about what are Dutch girls like in relationships. As you can see, stealing the heart of typical Dutch women doesn’t have to be difficult if you know what to do.
This is why a read through the ultimate guide to dating a sexy woman will further help you with this task.
Each lady requires a different and special approach, and with the knowledge you possess now, the experience of dating Dutch girls will be very rewarding.