For years now I have been traveling the world in search of the adventure and looking to enrich my experience.
If you are new here, make sure to check out all the men’s country guides to see how Estonian men compare in all categories.
On the way, I have met a lot of people and dated a few in, well, all the countries I have visited.
After years of living on the go, I have become what you may call an international dating expert, so I decided to create these guides and help your international dating experience once you are in the country of your choice.
I this guide I am focusing on handsome Estonian guys.
I will tell you where to meet Estonian men, how to meet an Estonian guy and a lot more.
I will even share some Estonian guy dating tips and what are Estonian guys in bed like.
Are you interested? Of course, you are, so let’s start getting to know these hot Estonian guys.Is your dating app giving you the best chance for success? Make sure to take our online dating site/app quiz to find out. People who follow our dating site suggestions have on average 2 more dates per month.
What are Estonian Men Like
To get a better understanding of what is dating Estonian guys like you will need to understand their character and the way they think, their values, so here I am, describing typical Estonian guys for you.
And no description of what are Estonian guys like will be complete without saying something about their physical appearance.
Handsome Estonian men are all very tall with well-built muscles. They look similar to both Russian guys and Finnish guys.
Despite their good built when they are young after they reach a certain age (somewhere about 35) they gradually start to become bigger and bigger unless they are physically active and take care of what they eat (and a lot of them do).
They are typically blonde with blue eyes and perfect teeth and smiles.
I personally like my guys tall and blonde, but I gave them a 9 just because not everybody’s tastes are the same, and that they can get really big later in life.
Estonian men living in Estonia are fairly fashionable, they don’t put much effort into looking attractive as such.
This country is in the northern part Europe and it is often cold all through the year so you should expect to see more man covered up to keep warm most times not like other countries where the four seasons is well defined.
I will give them 8 out of 10 because of the region and they try as much as possible to wear the expensive coats, shoes and jacket that still serve the purpose of keeping them warm.
Additional Rating – The Tinder 1000 Swipe Rating
On top of the physical trait ratings for Estonian men, we have also created our own additional rating from the Estonian men we see on Tinder. We call it the 1,000 Tinder swipe rating. It is extremely accurate and gives a very good overall picture of the men and how attractive they are.
This is how it works.
We swiped through 1000 different profiles in all of the major cities of Estonia and took note of how many handsome men there are. We jotted down how many 8’s, 9’s and 10’s there are based on their profile pictures. Here is a quick breakdown.
- 0-100 is poor
- 100-200 is OK
- 200-300 is Good
- 300 – 400 Is Incredible
- 400 + is Mindblowing (There are only a few of these)
With a Tinder Plus subscription, you can teleport to anywhere in the world and swipe for yourself. Find out more below In the section about how to meet Estonian men. Also, make sure to check out my other country guides to see how their Tinder scores compare.
Character Traits of Estonian Men
Now it is the time to talk about their character which will give you an idea of what are Estonian men like in relationships and whether you can share their values.
1. Gentleman Rating
Strictly speaking, sexy Estonian guys lack that elegance and gentlemen style when they are dating.
You would expect that he will wait for you without objection if you are even a little bit late for a date, but they will not. They do not practice that old-school attitude toward women.
They will, however, be very polite, and respectful of you and your time, friends and family that you will also have a lot of incentive to respect him equally.
Integrity is Estonian men’s forte. They really do everything in their life with integrity and will respect yours.
The Estonian hotties do not wear their heart on their sleeve. I would never say that they are dishonest, however, they do not talk about their feelings much. They will only talk once they have gone over logically over their feelings gazillion times. So, they might seem secretive while they are only cautious.
Some research I have read about dating an Estonian man before I went there said that typically, Estonian guys cheat on their girlfriends at least once which is not an encouraging piece of information if you are looking to find an Estonian boyfriend.
On the other hand, people cheat in any other country too so it depends on the person more than on the nation.
I gave them only 7 just because it is socially kind of acceptable there and he chances are, hence, higher.
On the other side, they are very loyal to their families, so once they decide to get married you become family.
In this case, an Estonian man will have the probability of not being loyal just like any other guy in the world.
5. How protective are they?
I like the way they are protective. They are not pushy; they do not like drama so you will not be a victim of any type of macho behavior that passes as protectiveness.
They will just make sure you know that they are there for you whatever you need and you can be sure that it is for true.
You will have a partner and not a guardian.
6. How resourceful are they?
Estonians are in general well-educated, so subjects to talk about will never be scarce.
Since they are family-oriented and like to spend time in the privacy of their homes, they are pretty handy around the house as well.
Not a bad combination if you are looking for a long term partner.
Estonians take any important thing in life into very close consideration- jobs, relationships, family, love, anything really.
They are not rash and are rarely seen regretting any choice.
With all that seriousness comes the fact that they take time to make decisions, which can be tiresome for a foreigner sometimes.
In their everyday lives and in communication Estonian guys are very relaxed which comes off as self-confidence. However they almost never make the first move, and this entails that they do, in fact, have some doubts in their courting abilities.
9. Friendliness vs. Reserve
Estonians are not the friendliest guys out there.
I mean they are not at first until you meet them. One of the Estonian men stereotypes is that they are cold and reserved, at least as much as the German guys.
They definitely appear so at first, mainly because they do not approach girls first and because they are careful not to offend you.
Later, once you get to know each other a bit, they are very friendly, open-minded and carefree.
So far you have read that Estonian men are friendly, honest, mature, and so on. I want to believe that so far, you have been seeing that the stereotypes are not all true after all.
Continue to read more about Estonia and the dating culture of Estonian men to find out about the good part and the not so good part.
Pros and Cons of Dating an Estonian Man
Dating Estonian men is quite different from dating, say an American or a Spanish guy.
The differences are based on some Estonian guy stereotypes as well as the cultural environment in Estonia.
Here is some more information on what are Estonian men like and what you can expect while dating them.
1. Family and Love
Estonian men are very family-oriented people and they take both family and romantic love seriously.
They never joke around with matters of the heart, and if you hear an “I love you” from your Estonian boyfriend, you do not have to think about whether it is true or not. Estonian guys take this deadly serious.
They are also fans of simple expressions of love.
They will not go overboard with writings in the sky, but just looking in his eyes you will not need any more proof of his feelings.
One of the main tips for dating an Estonian man is that you should never pressure him to be more open about his feelings verbally.
He does not like that and does not see the necessity and you pressuring him can be counterproductive.
So just relax and enjoy his company, and let him express his love on his own terms.
2. Gentle lovers
As they take love seriously they take all its components the same way.
Estonian men in bed are very gentle and dedicated lovers, paying close attention to what you desire and need.
Although they are not as fiery and passionate as, say the Spanish guys, or romantic as the French guys reciting poetry for you as foreplay you will definitely not lack excitement hooking up with an Estonian guy.
They will take time to build up the emotion and take you to new levels of enjoyment.
Does it sound impossible?
Well, it is not.
Get over your prejudice that they are distant and cold and dare to experience what I am telling you about.
3. Classy and interesting dates
What are the things you are probably lacking in your hometown relationships?
Are you tired of eating hamburgers sitting on the hood of his car?
I’m not saying that’s bad, though, but sometimes we need some other content to our dates, and we possibly crave going to fancy restaurants from time to time or going to the theatre instead of the movies’.
In Estonia, theater tickets are very affordable and young people have the culture of going to see the shows. It is not reserved for the upper class only.
So, what you were maybe lacking in the USA can be easily compensated in Estonia.
Isn’t it nice to go on a date wearing a gown like in an episode of Sex and the City?
On the other hand, on a low-key date night, you might just go for a walk in the park.
And also, they tend to organize a full day of fun activities like hiking, playing sports or riding a bike.
They do not lack creativity in this aspect at all, and you will never feel like they had enough of you for the day, because once one part is over, they will readily suggest another one.
Coming from the USA you are probably used to PDA.
The chances are high that you engage in it and that you like it.
For an American woman, it is a sign that your man is proud to say that you are his girlfriend and that he will not hide you from the rest of the world.
In Estonia, it is not the case, they almost never engage in PDA.
It even goes as far as the fact that he will kiss you on the cheek when you meet and that he will not even take your hand, which can be highly confusing, especially for a foreigner.
I spent days and weeks thinking that my Estonian boyfriend is not into me at all and that what he wants is just a physical relationship because he just will not acknowledge the relationship once we are not alone or when we are outside.
After some time, I asked him about that and he explained that that’s just the way they are, Estonian men (girls also) are not into PDA.
So, if you are looking for smooching your BF while you are out having drinks, you can just forget it.
For them, privacy is everything.
If you want to know what are Estonian men like you have to let them open up to you on their own terms.
Being a woman, you want to know everything here and now, and that’s ok, it is just the situation that with Estonian men that do not happen.
They do not talk about their feeling, they do not talk about their plans (with you or for life), and they almost never introduce you to their families and even friends.
So, if you are doubtful, and would find this frustrating, you might want to reconsider, because you would be frustrated constantly.
How to meet an Estonian man
If you are one of the many American women looking for Estonian men, the best option to actually meet Estonian men is to go to Estonia and get flirtin’.
Although a bit reserved at first glance, it is not that difficult to figure out the way to approach them.
If you are interested to know where to meet Estonian men in Estonia your chances are highest in the biggest cities, and basically anywhere-bars, parks and so on.
On the other hand, if you are reluctant to visit Estonia and get the first-hand real-life experience, and want to have an interesting guy to chat with before you dare on an adventure, there are several great options for online dating.
I have used them all and I chose Badoo.com as my personal favorite because the choice of Estonian males is great, and there is a large number of single Estonian men just waiting for you to melt their hearts.
Coming from America you are probably familiar with Badoo and the chances are you might even already have an account.
It is mostly targetted at friendships and casual dating; however, you can find true love there as well.
It is easy to set up; there are millions of single people all over the world that you can filter by what you are looking for (location, age, etc.)
Messaging is free for anyone but you can access many other features if you are a premium member. There is also a fully functional app for all of you ladies on the go.
Start browsing through to meet eligible single Estonian guys.
How to conquer an Estonian man’s heart
International dating is tricky so here I am with more information on the Estonian dating culture and Estonian men dating tips to make the process more enjoyable for you. So, let’s continue.
1. Make the first move
Although very traditional in other aspects of life, sexy Estonian men like a lady who is confident enough to make the first move. They are very reluctant to do so themselves.
If you like him, approach him with an interesting date suggestion, or just plain and simple invite for a drink. They just simply like to passive in this very first stage of dating.
2. Be practical and reliable
A simple, kindhearted Estonian man does not like any kind of extravaganza.
Simple as they are they like simple stuff as well like taking a walk, or watching a movie.
They also appreciate your reliability. If you have agreed on something make sure you keep your word.
They are stubborn and will hold a grudge if you let them down.
So, you know how to avoid that.
3. Be punctual
Okay, forget about all that making him wait and being late a few minutes.
All Estonians and especially Estonian men are very punctual.
They will honestly consider it rude if you make him wait even a few minutes (unless there is a problem, in which case you are expected to message or call to let him know).
Hot Estonian men do not subscribe to ‘a lady is allowed to be late’, show up on time, or even a few minutes early and you are golden- they will respect you even more which will pave your way to their hearts.
4. No drama
Estonians take pride in how peaceful a life they are living so in order to conquer and keep an Estonian man cut all the drama.
They do not like their women hot-tempered, so forget about explosive outbursts of any kind of emotion, solve problems peacefully and tactfully.
Dating an Estonian guy is a private experience.
Unlike Spanish guys or Italian guys, they do not like meeting with their girlfriend in a large group.
So forget about the entire gang hanging out, you will most probably only superficially meet his friends.
Meeting the friends and family comes a lot later in the relationship, once they have decided that you might be the one.
Typical Estonian men like to see that they are committed to them and the relationship.
They like to spend time with their girl, and they like to spend quality time one-on-one.
They will talk to you for hours when you are taking a walk or going on a picknick, or just hanging out at home.
7. Language Barrier
Not all the dating tips and tricks in the world would be of any help if you are looking for more than a smile across the room unless you two can speak the same language.
International dating can pose a problem if you are not speaking the same language or if you know only a few words.
If you are by any chance studying Estonian and are looking to perfect it among the native speakers you will get loads of help, they will gladly correct you.
Luckily for us who do not speak a word of Estonian, Estonian guys speak English and they speak it well so unless you come across a rare bird who doesn’t you should be okay.
Like all other guys from other countries, they will appreciate if you try to speak Estonian and learn a few basic expressions.
They will gladly help you master Estonian.
It is not close to English at all but if you have an avid teacher who will interrupt language lessons with a little make-up session you will be highly motivated to study it.
I remember that was my motivation and I still remember some basic words even after I left Estonia for a different adventure.
Top 3 Hottest Estonian men
After I have told you how to meet Estonian men and where to meet Estonian guys and shared some information on what are Estonian guys like in relationships, the time has come to give you a visual on how they actually look in real life, so I have chosen these three fine-looking gentlemen to serve that purpose.
1. Johann Urb
Johann Urb is an Estonian actor born in Tallinn, Estonia in 1977.
He has made his name known worldwide by acting in Zoolander and Resident Evil among a few other smaller roles. He has a great talent hidden behind his good looks.
He is very tall – about 6 ft 4, and has Estonian signature blue eyes and fair hair. He has a dazzling smile as well.
We should be so lucky to see him star in a few romantic movies soon, so there is a lot to look forward to.
2. Alo Kõrve
Born in Jõgeva, Estonia in 1978, Alo Kõrve is a stage, film, and television actor.
Another tall, blue-eyed Estonian. He is not recognized worldwide but in Estonia, he is very famous and loved. He is good-natured and approachable.
If you would like to watch some of his movies and TV shows visit IMDb and browse through the list and enjoy it.
3. Allar Raja
Allar Raja is an Estonian rower, born in 198 3 in Sindi, Estonia.
In Estonia, he is famous for bringing home an Olympic bronze in rowing from the 2016 Olympics, which is his greatest sports achievement.
He has a masculine face, light hair and is, you guessed it tall (6 ft 2).
His sportsman’s body I do not have to emphasize too much, just look a few of his photos and you will understand. The 2020 Olympics is approaching, maybe we will have the chance to see him compete again.
Hopefully, after reading this little guide o’ mine about Estonian men dating culture, you are all prepared and ready to start your new adventure!
You can even prepare further by using the ultimate guide for online dating to kick start your love life.
Have fun with Estonian boys!
I know I had and I strongly believe that you will too 😉