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So, seeking to dive into the world of sugar dating, AKA sugaring, but you don’t know what kind of arrangements there are?
Hmm, what if I told you things are as simple as can be? Let me phrase it better – I will make them simple for you!
Here, you will find out:
As someone with substantial sugar baby experience (don’t ask me how I got it) in the field, let me introduce you to all the types of sugar daddy seeking arrangements you can opt for.
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Post 3 of 6 in the Becoming A Sugar Daddy Series
Sugardaddies – Sugarbabies Typical Arrangements
Sugar dating is one of the common love-sex arrangements there is out there. Accordingly, let me say – I ain’t judging, man
We’re all flesh and blood and we all need to feel good occasionally even if we have to pay for it.
Actually, even better if we have to pay for it – we all know the limits of what’s allowed and what is not, so truly you get ONLY what you paid for.
So, if I were to provide a straight answer to what are sugar daddy arrangements, then I’d say it’s a form of dating where rich men pay for (typically) sexual services from young women.
More or less, this also answers your doubts on what is a traditional sugar daddy arrangement (more on that later).
No drama, no fuss; just plain and simple consensual relationship.
Let’s just take a brief detour, shall we?
Sugardaddies Seeking Arrangement – General Guidelines
Sugar babies out there are wondering how to find a sugar daddy on seeking arrangements or how to talk to a potential sugar daddy.
But, it’s actually way easier for them.
However, for you, as a novice in the world of beneficial relationships, let me tell you that the first precondition you need to satisfy is that you have to have money.
But you knew that, didn’t you?
Still, sugar babes easily see-through fakes so don’t even bother if you aren’t monied.
Moreover, you are here for the fun, the sex, and some time to kill.
Do know, though, that sugar babies are not your playthings. Most of the time, these girls are just looking for an easy way out. They may be tired of doing two jobs, or they are just adventurous.
Whichever the case, bear in mind that a sugar baby is not your property. She is someone you pay to keep you company in the arrangement that you choose. Nothing more than that – some prefer to be a nonsexual sugar baby.
She is a band-aid on your wound and you’ll have to rip it off sooner or later.
Next, communication is key. You and your sugarbabe need to be open from the start on what you are expecting from each other.
You need to know whether she wants you to buy her the latest Gucci or Louis Vuitton or she wants you to help her out with her career advancement.
Yes, there are sugar babies interested in a bit more than spending someone else’s money.
Once you are clear on these sugar daddy and sugar baby rules, there will be no misunderstandings between you. You won’t have to explain why you sent her the latest research on the VAT rate increase and she just wanted the items from the latest Balenciaga collection.
And, if you are wondering how do you spoil a sugar baby, just listen to her needs or follow the sugar baby guide. There will be cues and obvious signs all over the place.
Another point that you need to clear out with your new sb, is allowances and payments. Money is actually the basis of your relationship so don’t avoid this topic.
How much do sugar daddies pay a month is the first dilemma that a sugar babe struggles with.
The answer is easy. You make an offer and let her make a counter-proposal. Or, vice versa.
You are a skilled businessman. Don’t let her have too high expectations, but don’t humiliate her either.
Remember, you both have to have your satisfaction.
Next, how often?
There are two answers to this question and that depends on how you interpret it.
If you discuss how often you should see each other, well, that depends entirely on you and the available time that you have.
Be clear, though, on this one so you don’t get stood up.
If you interpreted this question on how often you should make the payments to her, then again, check this with her.
I suggest that you agree upon the monthly allowances, but it’s completely up to you.
FINAL TIP: For Christ’s sake, don’t knock her up!
First of all, why would you do that?
Second of all, if it happens – be a man. Talk to her about what she wants and act accordingly. Try to reach an understanding. You are both in it and don’t be a pig (won’t apologize for this one!) to let her deal with it on her own.
Now, as for the actual sugar daddy arrangements, this is what you can expect to find.
That is Online Relationship Only.
This is maybe one of the most subtle forms of sugaring and the first of the sugar baby arrangement examples on my list.
It involves you, a sugardaddy, signing up for a dating site (that is known to work best for sugar dating) and then looking for a sugar baby to cater to your needs. Online.
From my tone, you can figure out I am not quite a fan, but, hey – whatever gets you off!
Now, seriously, online dating in this way may easily be the safest.
You don’t have to meet with your sugar baby if you don’t want to, so you’ll never be in any physical danger. The same goes for the sugar baby too.
In case you ask yourself how this works, well, this is easy. You register on one of the plethora of sugar dating websites and apps, set your search preferences and you’re good to go.
For example, you can limit the search by age, education, or any other trait you find important.
As a hint, let’s say you are among rich older men of New York seeking young women for sugardating.
Just tell the dating website or dating app your preferred date is up to the age limit of 25 and they need to be from New York. It will find you a match in no time.
The same goes for the girls wondering how to find a sugar daddy on seeking arrangements. Just register on the website and that would be all.
Tinder, Sugardaddymeet, SeekingArrangement, or anything in a similar streak is a good start. These websites are at the same time the answer to the question sugarbabes often ask – how can I find a sugar daddy online since these websites are an excellent start.
If you are a physical type, know that this might not be the right option for you. If you like to touch and be touched, I’m afraid you won’t be able to do much considering it is a sugar daddy without sex relationship except, touch yourself.
You will have to get used to getting nudes and phone sex. Of course, arrange for these in advance so your babe doesn’t get all weird when you ask for this.
The best option is to mention this when discussing her monthly allowance so everybody is clear from the start.
Be careful, though, with these dating apps and sites since they are a good basis for a scam. So, if you are giving your credit card details, make sure that they are well-protected.
2. Mentoring Arrangement
Believe it or not, sugaring is not just paying someone to tell you how handsome and strong you are.
Mentoring in terms of sugar daddy dating typically involves a mature, learned sugar daddy with a vast knowledge of and experience in a certain topic and a young sugar baby eager to take it all in.
The knowledge, of course.
This is a form of mutually beneficial arrangement where one party develops and rises above the need to be infinitely funded by someone else.
So, let’s say you’re an older man (not necessarily) with a gigantic experience in accounting eager to share his knowledge and wisdom. This means that college students will be the right choice of a sugar baby for you.
Well, to begin with, you do not have to offer the monthly allowance to her directly. Instead, you can suggest paying off her student debt or loan.
In return, she gets to study/work in practice and learn everything firsthand.
Not to mention that this means you will get beauty and brain.
What more could you wish for from a sugar baby?
You’re sad and lonely?
You are overwhelmed by the work?
Do you need to get away from your nagging wife?
Do you need someone to just be there, sit silently, and nod comprehensively?
Then, this is the sugar dating arrangement just for you, mate!
I know how impossible this may seem, but there are sugar babies who are not in it just for sex/money.
Sometimes they are just interested in basic human conversation like, “how was your day” or “did you have enough sleep”?
You might get surprised how many younger women need a break from it all being about the money. This is why sugar babies’ companionship can often be quite relieving.
Here, it’s all about the time you spend talking about all sorts of topics and sex can but, it doesn’t have to be off the table.
Within such an arrangement, I have to be honest and say you are doing a favor to your mental health.
Practically, your sugar baby is your person to vent to and you are hers.
Can’t be that bad, right?
4. Travelling Arrangement
Brandon Wades of the world are men of business who travel a lot.
Please, don’t tell me how you don’t know who Brandon Wade is?!
Like, social media, or more precisely, sugar daddy websites magnate.
Hello, SeekingArrangement, MissTravel, WhatsYourPrice.com?! Ring a bell?
Good, you got it!
Now, mentioning Wade here was not unintentional. Sugardaddy himself or not, he made a website that can help you in this sugaring arrangement, that is travel.
His sugar dating site MissTravel is excellent for you as a sugar daddy to find younger women to join you on your next business trip.
No matter how much you like the job that you do, traveling for business is almost always boring.
This is why you can bring a sugar baby with you to keep you company.
PRO TIP: College students are an excellent choice here. Especially if you choose the ones that are involved in tourism studies or similar. They are always keen on exploring New York City from scratch, even if they’ve been there a couple of times. Or even better, the thought to meet a whole new city, country or culture gives them the thrill and that will keep you in the mood too.
However, bear in mind that if you decide to start this journey through online dating you might come across some difficulties.
With this kind of dating, the danger of sex trafficking is increased so you might be perceived as someone who is recruiting girls for sex work.
For the sake of your mental health and peace of mind, make sure to reassure them fast.
Maybe you could spend some time just messaging or chatting with each other and then set up a first date at a crowded place. This is great for your safety and for your next sugar baby’s safety too.
Now that you are aware of the perils, let me tell you that once you find a sugar babe to accompany you on your next business trip, this will become your habit soon enough.
Sugar babies are an indispensable and welcoming addition to these trips. Just imagine you are coming to your hotel room totally brainwashed from a 3-hour meeting and there she is – all set to relieve you of the stress.
Priceless, I tell ya!
5. (Classic) Sexual Arrangements
If you’re looking for the answer to the what is the traditional sugar daddy arrangement, this is it!
Come on, I love sex. You love sex. Young women love sex. Everybody loves sex.
Y Tu Mama, Tambien!
And, what’s the problem with paying for something that you like, exactly?
Aaa, you’re saying it’s prostitution?
But, is it though?
I know it’s a thin line – but sugar babies are not sex workers. At least they weren’t last time I checked.
And, sugaring is not sex work.
Sugar daddy relationships with young women are totally OK, having in mind they both consented to enter one.
With prostitution and sex trafficking, the victims are almost 100% forced to do so and are completely dependent on their macros.
See how I said victims relating to prostitution? Not sugar babies, victims.
And, that is all the difference.
Not to mention that the sugar babe can quit any time she wants, while the sex trafficking and prostitution victim cannot.
As for sugaring in the form of this mutually beneficial arrangement, your sugar baby decided to do so on her own without any coercion. Except for her desire to earn some quick money, no moral implications are involved.
And morality, by the way, it’s just a constriction imposed by others.
Back on track.
When it comes to sexual sugaring arrangements, things are pretty much straightforward. You meet a sugar baby, you like her, you offer the arrangement to her, she accepts, you pay either upfront or after the act, and basically, you get on with it.
No rocket science here.
Again, bear in mind it’s beneficial relationships we are talking about, so be generous when suggesting the weekly or monthly allowance to your sugar baby.
I can’t answer for you what is a good sugar baby allowance, but I can tell you that this is an individual issue that you need to discuss with each babe separately.
This is a sugar daddy dating at its finest, if I may say so (now Virgin Maries are gasping!).
I know you think this means you and your babe arrange for a meeting, you have sex and that’s it.
However, this doesn’t necessarily have to be the case. You can extend the intimacy to something more than this. Heck, you can even go to dinner together.
Practically, you are free to suggest something more than fun under the sheets and your sugar baby can choose whether to accept it or not.
6. Financial Dominance Arrangement
And, how is that any different from everything so far?
And, isn’t this more in the BDSM zone?
Much and none.
Yes and no.
If you still don’t know what is the sugar daddy sugar baby relationship, here’s a special treat for you kinky souls out there.
This sd-sb relationship, or sd/sb arrangement, typically involves a well-off sugar daddy who likes to please young women. By pleasing, I mean in every which way. Financially, sexually, or whatever comes to your mind.
Of course, BDSM too, if required.
However, the main idea is that the sugar daddy is being financially dominated by his sugar babe. This practically means he puts her in charge of his transactional activities and his credit cards.
I know, I know, sugar babes might think this is heaven on earth, but not everybody has the stomach for it.
The typical terms to apply here are findom (or, findomme) for the sugarbabe domina and paypig is the term for the financially submissive sugar daddy.
As you can see, the nickname for the sugar daddy is not quite nice, to say the least.
However, if this is your cup of tea, go ahead and find yourself a findom to order you around what to buy to her, where to travel next, when to have sex.
Hmm, this awfully sounds like marriage, innit, mate?
Sugaring, or mutually beneficial arrangements, are rather popular no matter what the puritans may think of it.
The general opinion is that it’s looked upon as something disgusting and socially unacceptable.
And yet, there are so many sugar daddy websites and sugar daddy dating options at hand.
Sugardaddy relationships are quite normal these days and I don’t see why anyone would frown upon the things two people do in their own free time.
Of course, as long as it does not bring physical or any other harm to anyone else.
If you decide to go for any of these arrangements, you can give a shot at online dating first and then proceed to meet in person.
The most important thing is to be open to your sugar babe – no taboos. Be straightforward from the start and ask her about her expectations and tell her yours too.
Meet halfway if necessary.
All in all, you have all the relevant sugar baby arrangement descriptions here and together you decide on what works best for you – friendship, mentoring, sexual arrangement, or dominance.
The rest is easy – trust me!