Even though it’s a common opinion that the life of a sugar baby is easy, it’s wrong on so many levels, especially concerning safety.
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Therefore, in this text, I’ll give you several safety tips for sugaring and I would suggest you read them.Is your dating app giving you the best chance for success? Make sure to take our online dating site/app quiz to find out. People who follow our dating site suggestions have on average 2 more dates per month.
Post 3 of 4 in the Sugar Baby Safety Series
Online Relationship Safety Guide
Instead, as I already said, I’m going to tell you is, it is dangerous to be a sugar baby and talk about the rules of being a sugar baby, whether you’re looking for a serious relationship (like Tinder or eHarmony) or casual hookups (like BeNaughty or Ashley Madison).
I’ll start from the first thing that happens in the process of sugar dating and that’s the very first contact between a sugar baby and a potential sugar daddy.
You’ve probably heard of SeekingArrangement and other similar sugar dating sites and apps where you are supposed to create a good sugar baby profile and then meet sugar daddies.
Even though there are a lot of people who bring up the truth about seeking arrangements, claim that if you find sugar daddies via seeking arrangement sex is obligatory, this text won’t be about that because I don’t have enough reliable information about that matter.
Although I’ve heard some seeking arrangements horror stories, I simply can’t guarantee their truthfulness.
So after this little digression, my first safety tips for sugar babies will concern meeting part of the process.
Additionally, many inexperienced girls, even some sugar mamas, put profile pictures that already exist on some of their social media accounts.
Very wrong. Do not use your own photo as a profile picture.
There’s nothing wrong with fake names and pictures, sugar daddies use them too.
But if you really want to use your real photo, there is always a blurring option.
Just keep in mind that you shouldn’t show tattoos or any other marks that could reveal your genuine identity.
Subsequently, tend to avoid photos in which someone can see your house, your street, your house number, etc.
Otherwise, your address will be exposed.
I’m pretty sure that this sounds a bit unreal and overprotective to you, but unfortunately, I have to tell you that there are a lot of freaks out there and that there are guys who use various techniques to find out where you live.
You should be honest when creating your profile and you should specify what you expect from your potential sugar daddy and what exactly you are looking for.
Additionally, I would also like to encourage you to report any kind of suspicious or inappropriate behavior of any potential sugar daddy.
Namely, every online dating platform, website, or app has a report button which you shouldn’t be afraid to use in case of spam, foul language, and inappropriate behavior in general.
When you’re receiving gifts and money, never give your bank account number or your address.
Instead, you could use P.O. Box and PayPal.
Furthermore, don’t give your actual phone number.
Instead, you can create a Google voice phone number, with which you will be able to communicate without giving your real phone number.
Subsequently, you should insist on as many phone calls as possible even before the first date, since that kind of conversation will help you get a better impression of your potential sugar daddy.
There are people who can pretend to be something they are not, but that is short-term.
After several long phone conversations, you will be able to find “holes” in their stories and if you manage to find them, that’s a huge red flag.
This meeting process should last for a while and only after you estimate that your potential sugar daddy is trustworthy, should you agree to meet him in person.
Nevertheless, there are also rules, maybe even stricter ones, when it comes to meeting a sugar daddy in person.
First Date and Offline Dating Safety Guide
Here we get to the next point of this safety guide and that’s the first date.
However, even if you are quite certain that your sugar daddy is a good person who would never hurt you, you can’t be 100% sure, until you meet him in person and get to know him.
So it would be very useful to do thorough research, simply to find out whether your sugar daddy gave you real information about him and his life.
That’s why your first couple of dates should take place strictly in a public place.
Furthermore, a friend of yours or some of your family members should know where you are and if you feel uncomfortable telling that you are on a sugar date you can always make something up or simply tell that you are on a regular date.
On the other hand, if there is a person in your life to whom you can confess that you’re having a sugar daddy, that person could basically be your insider. How?
Well, that person could be at the same place where your sugar date occurs, so that they could react if something unexpected or unwanted happens.
If you don’t trust your sugar daddy to the core, don’t accept invitations to the hotel room or anything similar.
Another safety tip is to organize your own transportation home since you can’t rely on your sugar daddy after just one date.
Furthermore, you shouldn’t drink alcohol because it could affect your common sense and perception and you should never leave your drink out of sight since various kinds of drugs could be slipped into it.
Remember that you should be treated with respect, that at the end of the day you draw the line, and that some sugar daddy sugar baby rules must be established and it would be ideal if you established them the first time you meet with your sugar daddy.
Therefore, you should use the first date to familiarize your partner with some boundaries, tell him what you want and what you are not comfortable with.
If he accepts it, that means that you can move on.
If not, that could be a signal to you that perhaps he is not the right guy for you.
You have to keep in mind that most sugar daddies see mere sex workers in SBs.
Nowadays it is difficult to find a non-sexual sugar daddy online (sugar daddy who is not focused just on sex) or an SD who is interested in online sugar daddy relationship, even though during this time of pandemic more and more older men opt for online relationships.
For that reason, you have to make your sugar daddy understand that being a sugar baby and dating a sugar daddy includes many rules.
One of the rules of being a sugar baby is that a sugar relationship is not basic sex work unless you opt for sugar baby prostitution.
So I would advise you to get involved in sugar daddy sex if you are comfortable with it, but keep in mind that you are allowed to say no.
Apart from the question is being a sugar baby safe, many potential sugar babies ask very often how long does a sugar relationship last.
According to some researches, on the average, sugar daddy relationships last approximately 3-6 months, but there are also those which last longer or shorter.
Researches aside, what you must know is that you are allowed to break up with your sugar daddy whenever you think it’s the right time.
At the end of the day, the definition of sugar relationships is that those are mutually beneficial relationships and in case you don’t feel you have enough benefits, you are free to end the relationship.
You are not a slave, in a civilized world any romantic relationship, including a sugar relationship, can end whenever one party wants and, therefore, keep in mind that nobody has the right to make you stay in a relationship against your will.
But now, I guess all of you wonder how do you end a relationship with a sugar daddy.
This question comes as a consequence of fear that many sugar babies feel when they have to end their sugar daddy relationships.
Of course, you can never guarantee full safety to someone, but there are some tips on how to end your relationship peacefully.
First of all, you have to plan how you want to end things and be aware that you have the power and the right to do it.
So, you should approach that task with a great level of self-esteem.
Secondly, you have to point out reasons why you are ending the relationship (for example some sugar daddy problems or something similar).
Therefore, you should be as honest as possible and if your sugar daddy is a normal guy, he will appreciate your honesty.
And finally, try to be polite, but at the same time determined.
You should be polite because you probably don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings.
But also, there are some sugar daddies who could react aggressively and your politeness might prevent that kind of reaction.
On the other hand, a determination is there because men can be very persuasive.
You should have your decision in mind all the time and shouldn’t let him convince you to change it.
And if, after that, you have any issue with your sugar daddy (violence, stalking, harassment, etc.), please feel free to contact someone, because there are already enough sugar baby horror stories and, believe me, you don’t want to play the major role in another one.
As for misconceptions, a popular one is that there are no scammers among sugar daddies, but only among sugar babies.
Unfortunately, of course, there are scammers among sugar daddies and scams are the phenomenon you should beware of.
The scammer will tell you a bunch of lies, that he lives in New York and has a ton of cash, basically sugar daddies stories that you want to hear, to get your services, and then you’ll get nothing in return.
In addition, if you are new in business you should be extra cautious since scammers lurk and wait for new and inexperienced SBs.
Another misconception I would like to mention is that you’ll be safer if you engage in sugar daddy prostitution, since, allegedly, you’ll have a weaker bond with your sugar daddy and, thus, it will be easier to break up.
Sadly, this really is a big misconception, since sex can be very strong bonding material and it won’t be any easier to end this kind of relationship.
Finally, I just want to tell you that I understand that it’s tough for young women to survive nowadays, especially during this coronavirus period.
I also understand that last year was terrible both economically and in terms of mental health.
And I know that everyone wants easy money and that some (for example) university student out there sees sugar relationship as a perfect opportunity for that.
But you all have to remember one thing: your safety comes first and that is why it is advisable to become an online sugar baby at times.
Having a sugar daddy to have fun with is great, but before that please be sure that you did everything you could to protect yourself.
And this text is written to help you with that.
Lastly, let’s answer the question that was basically the purpose of this text: Is it safe to be a sugar baby?
In my opinion, it depends on you and knowing what to look for in a sugar daddy.
If you do everything you can to protect yourself, you’ll most likely be safe.
If not, unfortunately, you never know what can happen.
And please understand that this wasn’t a threat, this was an expression of concern.
That’s why I wrote this text with emphasis on some sugar dating tips and I hope that all the safety precautions that I mentioned here would help you to stay safe.