Are you interested in becoming a sugar baby?
If this is your first time considering this idea, I am sure there are many things that you would like to know.
The first thing that you should know is that it is not that hard to become a real-life sugar baby.
My experience in sugaring has given me the ability to maintain a beneficial relationship with any sugar daddy I wanted.
Here you find out:
I have prepared an extensive sugar baby guide where you will get tips on being a sugar baby and learn about sugar daddy relationship rules.Is your dating app giving you the best chance for success? Make sure to take our online dating site/app quiz to find out. People who follow our dating site suggestions have on average 2 more dates per month.
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What are the Rules for Being a Sugar Baby?
This may well be the most important question of all – the golden rules of sugar dating.
As sugar babies are vulnerable, so to say, there are things that you should really be careful about and some that you should just follow to have a good sugar baby experience.
11 Sugar Baby Rules
Rule no. 1 – Create your persona (or strengthen your personality)
What is a sugar baby?
What comes to your mind when you hear the phrase ‘sugar baby’?
It is most probable that you would think of a young woman in need of money, perhaps a college student, and wealthy men who give her monthly allowance and expensive gifts in exchange for companionship (like Tinder or eHarmony) and sex work (like BeNaughty or Ashley Madison).
But this is not always the case (though sugar babies always receive monetary or other compensation). On the contrary, there are so many other variations in the form of a sugar relationship.
For starters, a sugar baby does not necessarily need to be a woman – nowadays there are more and more male sugar babies and, accordingly, sugar mamas.
So, who are you as a sugar baby?
It is not enough to just be a sugar baby.
If you want to attract someone exceptional and just right for you, you should dedicate time to your own presentation.
Think about yourself – who you are and who you want him to see in you.
If they match, great! If they don’t, you will have much fun playing the role of a lifetime.
One warning, though – don’t stray too much from your original personality.
If you spend much time with your sugar daddy (and you will), you may not be able to stay in character all the time.
The best choice would be to find out what you want to be like in a perfect world and work towards that. You will love it and so will your sugar daddy.
Rule no. 2 – Understand your Beginnings
How do you become a sugar baby?
Becoming a professional sugar baby is very easy.
All you should do is register on one of the social media dating websites such as Tinder or Brandon Wade’s seekingarrangement.com and you can start looking for your potential sugar daddies.
However, you should find some time to learn more about the seeking arrangement lifestyle expectation and sugar daddy rules.
After all, this will be a serious arrangement and you should be well-prepared for it.
Rule no. 3 – Create an Initial Plan
How does a sugar baby meet a sugar daddy?
The most common way is using some dating site.
Online dating has become the first, though short, step a couple takes before they meet up in real life, for example in New York or Los Angeles.
One thing you should be aware of is your choice of sugar daddy websites you are using. If you
Refrain from using your real name or a variation of it on the dating websites – for your own security.
In order to find the best match, you ought to invest time in perfecting writing sugar baby bios.
Your presentation needs to be the ideal picture of you in your desired role as a sugar baby. It is very important to do this step right.
After you find the desired person for your sugar daddy date, you will get in contact with him and things will start unfolding real quick from then.
Rule no. 4 – Prepare Well to Minimize Surprises
The most interesting question is: What can you expect on your sugar daddy first date?
As with any first encounter, you will get to know each other and set some basic rules for your sdsb relationship.
Use this first date to evaluate whether you really want to get in a relationship with that man. If you feel something is not right, you are not obligated to continue.
You will probably talk about how often you will meet, your sugar baby allowance, and what you expect from each other.
What you should do is prepare before the date, and here are some tips on being a sugar baby that you should pay attention to.
Think hard about what you want out of this relationship and what you are willing to give. You are not obligated to do anything more than that!
Since you probably want him to like you, you should look up his area of business or interests and learn a bit about them so that you can keep the conversation going.
Show him that you have your own life goals that you are working on, as you don’t want him to think that you want just to live off his money.
Dress appropriately for the place where you are going. You will need to wear elegant clothes and proper makeup.
And what is probably the most important piece of advice: meet up with your clients for the first time in public places. You will decide later whether you want to go somewhere private with him.
A person of confidence is another step towards your personal safety that is advisable to take.
Choose one person who you trust most and tell them where and with who you are. A friend should be there for you in the case of an emergency.
Rule no. 5 – IRL or Not IRL?
Can you be a sugar baby without meeting your sugar daddy in real life?
Yes, nowadays this is an option because of a married sugar daddy who is sneaking behind the wife’s back, which is more done digitally than physically.
The so-called digital sugar babies communicate with their sugar daddies via phone calls, chats, or video calls.
They do not meet in person.
It is good to have this in mind as a possibility, but you should also know that this kind of arrangement is less secure than meeting in person.
Rule no. 6 – Have in Mind the Possible Sugar Daddy Relationship Expectations
They may surprise you.
Contrary to popular opinion, not all successful men who enter an sdsb relationship are older men. Though most want a younger woman.
The beneficial relationship that comes from the sugar daddy requirements may be manifold.
Each has specific sugar baby expectations and its own sugar daddy and sugar baby rules.
The most stereotypical is a relationship void of emotions, where the sugar baby receives money and gifts in exchange for sexual services.
Sugar escorts get their compensation for spending some time with their sugar daddy at a coffee shop or a special event. This is very popular in Asia.
A variety of the latter can be when the life of a sugar baby is more entwined with that of her sugar daddy. Neither of the two includes sex work.
Sugar dating is the most frequent form of sugaring. The entwined lives and sex are both included here.
The phrase ‘sugar friendships’ should tell you plenty about this type of sdsb relationship. The two really are friends despite their basic relationship.
Of course, this arrangement can come with sex included.
In any case, you can expect that he may want to have sex with you. After all, you are a pretty and hot party here. But…
Remember that you are not obliged to do anything you are not comfortable with!!!
In the end, sometimes the two people end up doing regular dating and want to stay together for the rest of their lives. True love may be found in this way, you see!
Rule no. 7 – Don’t Wonder about How to Tell a Sugar Daddy What you Want
Nike says it all – just do it!
This is simple. It is one of the most important sugar daddy arrangement tips.
Be direct and straightforward. There is nothing better than that.
State clearly what you want and what you don’t want. You should both be open and honest in order to make the relationship function well.
Don’t leave anything to be inferred, or else you may find yourself in trouble.
I don’t advise you to engage in things you are not comfortable with. You don’t owe that to anyone!
But this doesn’t mean that you should be rude in setting your rules. Act politely and kindly, try to find common ground, but if you don’t, it is okay to quit the arrangement.
If your potential sugar daddy pushes you too much or is unclear and avoids talking about important points in arranging your relationship, there is probably something shady there. Be careful and check for signs of a salt daddy!
If it is smaller things you are uncomfortable asking for, let me tell you right away, there is no need for that.
If your sugar daddy doesn’t know what you want, he will probably not guess it himself.
The reason is simple – men think differently than women.
Again, be direct: you want to eat Mexican food tonight, you want him to text you more often, you want new shoes instead of a new dress – if he knows, he can make it happen.
Rule no. 8 – Think about Your Compensation
What is a good allowance for a sugar baby?
Many sugar babies start visiting sugar dating sites because they need money to pay rent or a student loan.
Some look for a husband in this way.
Be the case what it may, a good allowance is an inevitable part of a sugar relationship.
Therefore, you may ask yourself: How much is reasonable money to ask from sugar daddy?
First, it is only logical to think about how much you want (or need) to get. Or rather, what you want.
And here are your options.
While it is most common that sugar babes are paid by monetary means, some prefer gifts to money.
The actual amount given by a sugar daddy really depends on your agreement.
There are women who agree to go on one or more dates without getting compensation.
There are others who charge every minute of their time.
Some want to charge by the hour or visit, yet others have a weekly or monthly allowance.
And there are those who agree to dating a sugar daddy and getting gifts solely when and how much he chooses to give her.
To put it in simple terms, it is all up to you two.
Rule no. 9 – You can have a Greater Influence if you understand His Standpoint
Being a good sugar baby requires that you are more or less familiar with the sugar daddy tips.
In that way, you will know what you can expect from s relationship like this and you can make up your mind whether being a sugar baby is the right thing for you.
This being said, I will write here some sugar daddy guidelines as well.
A sugar daddy should convey his (or sugar mommy her) expectations from his sugar baby loud and clear.
He should have in mind that his sugar baby has a life outside the sugar relationship and respect that.
Even though he will give her money or allowance and probably many gifts, he should know that he shouldn’t expect her to do every single thing that he wants. After all, she is a rightful human being and deserves to be treated as such.
Rule no. 10 – Go out of Your Way to Show Him you are Mature
He doesn’t want a baby.
There are several items you should have in mind if you don’t want your sugar daddy to see you as an immature and needy girl:
Maintain regular and fruitful communication.
Show interest in him, his business and hobbies. Don’t let him think that you are only after his money (even if you are).
Be there for him but let him know that you have a life beyond your relationship.
Be consistent with your plans. Avoid canceling and changing plans. He should see you as an organized and serious girl.
Try not to depend emotionally on your sugar daddy. Like it or not, he wants someone to have a good time with without any drama.
If you decide to have sex, always have protection.
Be discreet about your sugar daddy. Even though you have a great time with him, he may be married and you are to keep a low profile in that situation.
Don’t yield when it comes to what you want. Stay firm, but never rude. If he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t deserve you.
Rule no. 11 – Be Prepared for a Bad Outcome
Do things have to go south?
You should have in mind that things don’t always work out.
A sugar relationship has much in common with an ordinary relationship.
Remember that everything has an ending.
Your sugar daddy may choose to break up with you. You can choose to break up with him. And it is okay!
Always have in mind that life is cruel. Unfortunately, bad things happen, too. So be on your toes at all times!
Have a solid plan for the time when you are without a sugar daddy.
Have a plan about what to do with the sugar that you get. Don’t become a spendthrift, be wise! Put some money on the side for the unpredictable future.
So, I have poured much of my experienced knowledge into this sugar baby dating guide that I have created for you.
To be honest, sugar dates can be very challenging but also extremely rewarding, if you play your role right.
You have a great benefit of having read this bunch of sugar baby advice that should help you to become the best sugar baby and get exactly what you want from your sugar daddy, and to have great fun along the way.
Now that you know what the sugar baby rules are, go out there and conquer the world!