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How to Find a Gay Sugar Baby
If you are reading this, you’re probably a gay sugar daddy looking for male sugar babies.
You probably think that it is hard to be gay seeking an arrangement with a young man and that sugar mommies have more chance than you.
Well, you’re right in that, it is not as easy as it is for straight people.
But if you diligently follow these tips on being a sugar baby, it will become super easy for you too.
1. Find out what gay sugar babies want
First things first.
Sugar baby dating, just like vanilla dating, comprises of understanding and wanting the other party to be satisfied.
This is your first step – learn about what it’s like out there for younger men in the role of sugar babies.
If you want to attract a gay sugar baby, for a long-term relationship (like Tinder or eHarmony) or hookup (like BeNaughty or Ashley Madison), you need to know what they are like and what will attract his attention.
If you understand what being a gay sugar baby is like, it might be easier for you to attract young gay men.
This is the way for you to learn about being a male sugar baby, read some gay sugar baby stories, understand sugar daddy relationship rules, and what it is like to have a gay sugar daddy.
You may ask yourself why you need to know all of this.
If you are new in the sugaring world, let me explain.
Even though in gay sugar daddy dating, you will be the one providing sugar, your sugar baby should also be happy.
You cannot make a person happy without knowing what they want or need.
Some rich sugar daddies just go on a sugar daddy dating site without understanding what they want and how to approach sugar babies – this can ruin your chances from the onset.
Hence, if you learn about how to be a sugar baby as a male, you will understand that world better and know what behavior to avoid and what to enhance.
This is a great way to attract exactly the kind of guy that you want.
Basically, gay sugar babies want the same perks as any sugar baby – attention and compensation.
Some sugar boys are willing to do the sex work, others won’t.
You should know that they are generally very flirtatious, especially when compared to straight guys.
Our research also revealed their longest relationships usually last about 8 months.
But there is a danger – they tend to get attached easily, so be careful to end it if the relationship starts going in a direction that is not comfortable for you.
Also, have in mind that some guys may actually be bisexual, not simply gay – if that is a deal-breaker for you, be honest right at the beginning.
Here is an extra piece of information for you: what is a male sugar baby called?
A sugar gayboy.
Visit Dating Websites
Finding a perfect match has become more convenient with the spread of the internet – dating apps and dating sites are all the rage nowadays, especially during the pandemic when clubs and bars are shut down.
Making a profile on some of the best sugar dating sites (such as seeking arrangements for guys) is a very important step in this process.
Read the following tips on how to make your profile engaging for the right audience and also become an online sugar baby.
2. Choose the best dating websites
You must choose sites with a good reputation.
Some of the worse sites are full of frauds; you should avoid them.
There are gay sugar daddies dating sites that have a lot of sugar daddy scams and these scammers aren’t joking – they want your hard-earned money.
So, have a short investigation on the best sites before registering with any gay dating site.
You will probably find that sites such as seekingarrangement.com or sugardaddymeet, or even Tinder, are the best as they verify their users and thus there is a smaller chance of malicious people using them.
While these sites are not traditional best sugar daddy websites, there are however some gay sites that are for this purpose and Gay Arrangement is one of such sites.
The good thing for you looking for sugar baby men is that there is a smaller number of sugar daddies for guys, so you may even be able to find more than one sugar baby.
3. Make an engaging profile
You want your profile to be attractive for young SBs, but you should also be careful and make it secure.
Let us start with security.
You shouldn’t use your real name on these websites.
Avoid variations of your name as well, but choose something that describes you without being excessively vulgar.
Never disclose any of your personal information, such as your social security number or bank account.
It is not unusual for both SBs and SDs to remain anonymous even during the course of the whole relationship.
This kind of relationship is often kept separate from the real life of both, hence the anonymity.
For the same reason, the money is best given in cash.
Now, if you want to have a good profile, you should make sure to fill in all the blanks.
They are there so that your potential sugar babies see whether you are a good match for them.
If they don’t like you, you will not even get a chance to meet any of them.
Next, use a real photo of yourself.
Please don’t take a photo from the internet.
You can get busted quite easily.
Some people are very careful not to mix the photos they put on their social media for sugaring and the regular social media websites.
Be honest in what you write about your personality.
If it attracts some sugar babies and you turn out to be different when you meet, it will certainly not lead to a mutually beneficial relationship.
You will have the chance to see various people here, from a young guy next door to a dominant masculine baby.
Trust your gut and choose by your instinct.
How to Attract a Gay Sugar Baby in Online Messaging
The next thing to happen is the start of communication between you and the potential sugar babies.
At first, you will just chat or have phone calls.
It is not that hard to guess how to behave here.
But let us go over that nevertheless.
- Be polite and kind.
- Be coquettish, but don’t be vulgar and rude.
- Don’t play hard to get.
- Be friendly and cheerful, show interest in him.
- Show that you are an interesting person and avoid being condescending.
- Don’t get too attached just because of the messages you get.
4. Check out other places to find a sugar baby
A great amount of gay sugar daddy experience tells that there are other places to find an SB.
Generally, they are the places where many people of the LGBTQ+ community gather.
- gay bars
- gay public events
Being a gay sugar baby begins with being gay.
The aforementioned places are where a mass of people gather, and some of them are interested in sugar daddy dating.
Hey, there is another place to look: big university campuses.
This is not such a well-known fact, but since rents and tuitions are very expensive in big cities such as New York City, San Francisco, or Los Angeles, foreign students are sometimes in search of sugar daddies (or sugar mommas) to get the money they need to survive.
They often don’t know how to become a male sugar baby, so you can seize the opportunity and teach them.
Remember, sugar daddy relationships (whether gay or straight) is between adults of different age range and varying life experiences.
This makes mentorship a big part of sugar dating.
Wild college parties are another place for you to look.
Now, you must have asked yourself what to do in those places.
We cannot say that it is easy to spot a person who is in for a transactional relationship that you want, but you cannot lose anything if you try.
There are some steps you can take.
Approach a person whom you like, initiate a conversation.
It is a good sign if he engages.
Lead the conversation and leave little hints that are connected with sugaring.
Both sugar daddies and boys always almost connect once in this kind of situation.
For example, you can ask about the most interesting or expensive gift he has ever received.
Or what he thinks about a relationship with no strings attached.
You will think of something.
Maybe the conversation will lead to it naturally.
The best gay sugar daddy relationships are the ones that sprout from natural conversations – as with other forms of relationships too.
But don’t be pushy and too obvious.
Don’t fire away all the questions at once and without order.
If he feels like he is being investigated, he will run away from you as fast as possible.
Just have in mind that some of them don’t yet know how to be successful male sugar babies.
Remember, subtlety is the key.
5. Make your first date memorable
After online dating comes the first time to meet your new lovebird in person.
Based on successful gay sugar daddy stories, we’ll give you some quick tips on how to have a successful first date.
- Be properly dressed.
- Choose a nice place to meet.
- Arrive on time.
- Behave like a gentleman.
- Don’t look down on him.
- Show interest in him.
- Be open and honest about yourself.
- Show that you expect honesty from him.
- Be clear about what you want.
6. Express your expectations
This is a very important topic and we want to cover it in more detail.
Whether you met on sites like Grindr, Sudy, or Sugardaddyforme, which may or may not be traditional gay dating sites it doesn’t really matter.
What differentiates sugar from vanilla relationships is the compensation that is given to the SBs.
As this implies a substantial amount of money, you two need to reach a satisfactory and clear agreement.
The first step is expressing both of your expectations in an upfront manner so that you understand each other.
Misunderstandings lead to the apparent breach of the arrangement and an uncomfortable position for everyone.
When it comes to secret arrangements on gay sugar daddy dating apps, there are sugar baby rules you need to be aware of.
So, before the date, think carefully about what you want from him.
Especially whether you want a sex worker, not just a conversational companion.
One very important thing to have clear is the allowance.
If you are not sure, it would be good to research how much male sugar babies make.
You should not offend him by offering a price too low, but you probably wouldn’t like to give out too much either.
At this point, we believe it’s useful to mention that gay sugar babies get less money than young women; even older women – sugar mamas – give more than gay SDs.
One strategy is to listen to his reasons for getting involved in the sugaring world and see what his needs are.
Is he leading a luxurious life as it is?
Does he need money to pay rent?
Does he want to pay out his student loan?
Based on that, you will be able to make out how much you are willing to give him.
Also, there is the option of paying per visit (PPV), which is great if you don’t want to meet him regularly.
The other option is a monthly allowance if you want to see him more often.
What to Expect in a Gay Sugar Relationship
Expectations are manifold; they depend on each person.
There are not so many reasons why gay twink boys seek to find a gay sugar daddy – mostly financial.
We believe you have some idea of what you want out of this relationship.
An SB most probably wants to know how to make money as a male sugar baby, so, he wants a gay rich sugar daddy.
You want companionship.
So there it is, you can reach a beneficial agreement easily.
Remember that falling in love is a possibility.
If you are not up for that, it would be most advisable that you break up on the first sign.
Note that this is more likely to happen if your SB does not have much experience in sugaring.
Though the experienced ones are not that immune either.
The relation between an SB and an SD may come in different ways.
The bond may be sexual, with a dominant and a submissive party.
Sex toys may be included if you want.
Some sugar daddies just want cuddles and such simple pleasures.
It may be purely platonic where the two meet for conversation and a nice outdoor time.
Other gay SDs actually see their young SBs as mentees whom they teach about life or business.
Sugar baby arrangement examples
For the end of our super guide, we’ve prepared a small collection of how a real-life gay sugar relationship may function.
- Gay sugar babies may be in the sugar bowl because they need money desperately. They are very vulnerable and often open for many things.
- Some people see this relationship as purely transactional and they tend to exclude emotions completely.
- For some, the exclusion of emotions is only temporary and they start to build up, making the relationship more complex.
- Some SDs, especially those who are old men, view themselves more as a mentor to their SBs. It is usually business knowledge that they want to transfer.
- There are older men who see their SBs as youth and beauty reaching them once again. They sometimes don’t care for sex.
Our methodology was to study and analyze several sugar daddy apps and websites to arrive at a comprehensive guide on how to find a gay sugar baby both online and offline.
Final thoughts on how to find a gay sugar baby
Now that you have read our little guide, we hope that things got clearer for you regarding being a sugar daddy for gay men.
You now know how to meet gay sugar babies and how to be a great sugar daddy for guys.
It is time for you to sit down, think hard about the kind of mutually beneficial relationship you want to have, and go for it!
But first, some FAQs!