All the people entering the sugar daddy relationships industry, no matter If they are a sugar baby or sugar daddy, usually don’t know how these arrangements work and what is the right way to start them.
Different types of arrangements, possible contracts, monthly allowance are just some of the things that should be discussed at the beginning of a sugar daddy relationship, and there are many different ways to do it.
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Sugar Baby Arrangements – How To Start Them?
At the beginning of your sugar baby relationships, there are usually many questions coming up, especially if you are doing this for the first time in your life.
- How much does a sugar baby cost?
- How do you negotiate with a sugar baby?
- How long do sugar baby relationships last?
These are just some of the questions both sugar daddies and sugar babies will encounter at the beginning of their sugar dating journey.
I believe you already know sugar baby sugar daddy relationships start via some of the dating websites like SeekingArrangement.
This is the place where you will find your perfect match with whom you will set up the first date.
The type of your arrangement, how many days a week you will spending time with them, financial support are all part of mutually beneficial relationships that are usually discussed the first time you meet.
Having a thorough understanding of the sugar daddy and sugar baby rules will reduce any form of struggles since you both know the right way to approach the talk about the arrangement.
In case you are meeting up with an experienced sugar baby or a real sugar daddy, this probably won’t be a problem for you, since they have done this many times and know how to start the conversation without making things uncomfortable.
So, what sugar daddy arrangements are most often?
Sugar Daddy Arrangement Types
There are hundreds of different types of sugar daddy arrangements out there and the only thing they depend on the wishes and desires of both people involved in the sugar daddy agreement.
What is a sugar baby looking for, usually depends on her financial needs, whether she is a college student or not, whether she is debt-free or not and this also differs from one young woman to another.
Sugar daddies’ desires also depend on many factors like his age, his social status, and overall his availability for women.
The type of arrangement will be based on what sugar babies do and also depends on both of you and these are just some sugar baby arrangement examples.
1. Traditional sugar baby arrangement
So, what is a traditional sugar daddy arrangement?
I decided to refer to this type of arrangement as the traditional one since this is the type of mutually beneficial arrangement you will come across the most often on all dating websites and it has been the most frequent one since SeekingArrangement and similar sites have been around.
Engaging in a regular arrangement means that you will be fulfilling all of your sugar daddies’ desires and getting some sort of financial support in exchange for that.
Depending on the details of your arrangement, your needs, and the wealth of your sugar daddy, the amount of your monthly or weekly allowance will differ.
This also means that you can have several sugar daddies at the same time and you don’t have to promise to be exclusive to anyone.
These types of arrangements were most frequent when websites like SeekingArrangement emerged and still are to this day.
2. Dominant sugar daddy arrangements
This is the kind of arrangement that I have seen a lot of on sugar dating sites during the last year and it basically means that your sugar daddy demands exclusivity, agreeing with you to not meet anyone else during your relationship.
A potential sugar daddy offering you this type of agreement often has low self-esteem and bad experiences with women, which is the reason he wants you to be only his sugar baby.
A non sexual sugar daddy usually detests regular sex work and escorting and really appreciates sugar babies, so you can be sure they will treat you in the right way.
Offers for this type of arrangement are usually pretty great and I believe only very wealthy men engage in them since they know they will have to offer you a lot more money than for a regular sugar baby arrangement.
3. Platonic arrangement
A platonic arrangement or a non-sexual sugar daddy relationship is one of the rarest types of agreements in this industry right now since this was a very popular thing a few years ago.
This is an arrangement that usually happens between younger women and older men who provide their sugar baby with financial support, while she accompanies them on their trips or takes them up as a mentor.
Nowadays both men and women on sugar daddy dating sites look for someone who will satisfy their sexual needs too and engage in relationships similar to conventional dating, so these types of arrangements are pretty rare on any sugar dating site.
4. Live in sugar baby
Live in sugar babies are women who decide to pursue a relationship that is almost the same as traditional ones.
These sugar babies live with their sugar daddies and do all the things they would be doing in a regular relationship, but they get some type of financial support in exchange for that.
This is also a type of arrangement that doesn’t come up often, since men who are offering you this type of lifestyle are usually suitors, looking for a quality woman they could potentially marry.
While this may sound a bit odd to you, trust me that this is something I have seen many times in the lives of successful men.
They often don’t have enough time to establish a healthy and stable traditional relationship, so they look for a potential wife on sugar daddy websites.
In my experience, these types of arrangements tend to be very successful, with most of them ending with marriage and they usually don’t function as regular sugar daddy relationships.
Men who offer you this kind of lifestyle usually give you a monthly allowance until they become sure you are a good choice for them, and after that they usually pay off your student debt or student loans before you get engaged and decide to tie the knot, continuing to live like all regular couples.
What will be your sugar baby arrangement description depends on both of you, which is why the sugar daddy relationship rules should always be discussed the first time you meet.
But how will you make sure both of you will stick to the arrangement and fulfill your duties?
Is there some type of a contract for that?
Is There A Sugar Daddy Contract?
A sugar daddy or sugar baby contract is something I have seen many people talking about on social media, and I can tell you that this is something I have never encountered in the sugar dating industry.
Once you come to a mutual agreement sugar daddy won’t ask you to sign any type of paper or contract, trust me, this is something I have never seen and I have spent almost 10 years enjoying my sugar daddy lifestyle.
In case your potential sugar daddy is telling you how you will have to sign some sort of a sugar daddy sugar baby sample contract or sending you a sugar daddy contract template, I recommend staying away from him.
This has proven to be a scam in 99% of cases and you will see many examples of sugar daddy sugar baby contracts online that are never used by legit sugar daddies.
Having a sugar daddy is in most cases similar to having a regular real-life boyfriend, and I believe you never had to sign any type of contract in order to stay in a relationship with someone.
What do sugar daddies do once they get you to sign that “contract”?
These so-called sugar daddies often use naive sugar babies to sign some type of a suspicious document in which they promise they will pay some amount of money to them each week or month, or even worse, use them to sign some documents that will certainly cause them legal troubles in the future.
When choosing the victim they will usually inspect your dating profile and in case they realize you are a newbie to this industry, they may decide to start a conversation with you and offer you a relationship, which will end badly.
A potential sugar daddy mentioning any type of contract or wanting you to sign something is always a red flag and you should stay away from them at all costs, even If they are promising to give you a large amount of money and amazing experiences.
At the beginning of your relationship, you will agree on what you want and seek from each other and define some sort of sugar baby or sugar daddy terms that will help you keep you cultivate your relationship.
The first dinner date is always used for discussing the details of your relationship, agreeing on the things you will provide each other with, and agreeing on whether you will be transferring money via a credit card, PayPal, or something else.
A sugar daddy or sugar baby agreement is always verbal, and while it can become some sort of a written document where you will write down what the other side has promised to you, it will certainly never be some kind of a legal document like a contract.
You don’t need a contract or any kind of document to define what is a sugar daddy and how does the relationship work.
It is something that will always stay between you and your sugar baby, without anyone else messing with your relationship.
There is no sugar baby contract that will sound like “…a 33-year-old M.M. is promising to engage in a sugar relationship with a 20-something L.L.”.
Neither the sugar daddy nor the sugar baby should be giving out their private information and full names on the first date and that is completely normal, which also makes it pretty clear that no real sugar daddy would propose signing any type of contract.
This is something useful for both sides to know since sugar daddies can become a part of a scam like this from a sugar baby, and If by any means this type of silly idea comes to their mind, they should know to never even think about writing some type of a contract.
Where Can I Educate Myself More About The Sugar Dating Industry?
For all beginner sugar babies and sugar daddies, this can be quite a confusing and strange industry, so I always recommend connecting with other people practicing it, and reading as much as you can in order to realize how it works.
The other thing that I suggest to everyone is to attend the annual Sugar Baby Summit that is usually organized in Los Angeles or New York.
Many girls and university students who want to become sugar babies show up to this event in order to find out whether they are a good fit for this lifestyle and to educate themselves more about all things sugaring.
For sugar daddies, this is the perfect place for meeting their sugar baby since even If the negotiations with one girl fail, there is always another sugar baby just around the corner.
The summit always includes many interesting speakers who are experts in sugar dating, psychologists, marriage counselors who can help you improve your love life immensely and give valuable advice about sugar dating.
How much does it cost to be a sugar daddy, what is a good allowance for a sugar baby, what type of arrangements are there in the sugar dating industry are just some of the questions you will get answers to?
For women, this is a great opportunity to make connections and meet a lot of other sugar babies who they can befriend to help learn even more about sugaring.