Hi ladies, welcome to our exclusive guide on how to be a sugar momma!
This guide will cover all that you need to know to set up a proper sugar momma dating profile and you’ll understand:
If you want to find out who is a sugar mama and how you can become one, you’re in the right place, because your sugar dating insider is here to tell you all you need to know.
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Post 4 of 7 in the Sugar Momma Dating Series
Who is a sugar mama and what is sugar Mama dating?
Are you a woman in her 30s or 40s who just can’t seem to find men that will satisfy her or engage in a valuable relationship?
This is a common struggle for many successful women, which often leaves them feeling empty and unloved – but it doesn’t have to be like that anymore.
In case you recognized yourself in this description, we believe you should try pursuing the sugar mama sex lifestyle that will provide you with satisfaction, love, and many enjoyable experiences with younger men.
What does sugar mama mean is a common question for many people both in and outside the sugar dating industry?
Sugar mamas are older women, usually aged somewhere between 35 and 50 years, looking for young men who will be their sugar babies and provide them both with emotional support (like Tinder or eHarmony) and sexual satisfaction (like BeNaughty or Ashley Madison), in exchange for gifts or some type of financial reimbursement.
We’ve discovered that rich and successful women who can’t seem to find love or sex in real life often turn to sugar mummy dating app to fulfill all of their needs.
Even though you’ve probably heard of sugar daddy dating and female sugar babies, you should be aware that sugar momma dating is also very popular, and there are plenty of sugar dating sites that can connect you with hot and young male sugar babies.
My sugar mama experience has shown me that just like traditional sugar relationships, sugar mamma relationships can also differ from one woman to another.
A sugar mommy can seek a relationship that will be completely sexual, or she can look for a sugar baby that will provide her with a real relationship experience, offering emotional support at all times.
Being a sugar mama doesn’t mean that you are looking only for young men, because there is a sugar momma for female and male sugar babies.
So, what is a sugar mama?
We believe sugar mamas are all wealthy women who want to establish sugar relationships with a younger person, whether the person is male or female.
Some rich women pursue sugar dating only to fulfill their sexual needs which is completely fine.
But there’s a bit of difference between sugar mamas and cougars.
In a case where they provide the men with some type of gift or financial support (monthly or weekly allowances), they are sugar mamas.
But if they only use them for sexual favors and never pay them in any way, then we’re talking about cougar dating.
Cougar dating is practically the same as sugar mama dating, but these are the relationships in which older women engage in sexual relationships with younger men without providing them with money or anything else.
How to be a sugar momma?
There are literally several steps every sugar mama should be aware of to become a momma every sugar boy wants.
The steps are listed below:
1. Know what to expect and what you deserve
First of all, you need to understand that these arrangements are not something set in stone.
There are different approaches, and people think differently than you do.
That’s why you are a successful lady and they are where they are.
Therefore, you need to know what exactly you want from the relationship before even becoming a sugar momma.
Remember, there’s no sugar momma definition or a one-size-fits-all sugar mama meaning for those looking for sugar mamas in my area.
So settling for something you think you don’t deserve is not an option.
You have to set your standards high and crave for things you really want.
Settling for anything below your “worth” or desires will simply make you feel like you’re in an unhealthy sugar relationship and that will do no good.
A sugar dating tip is to be as straightforward as you can while talking to sugar babies whether male or female.
That will set the boundaries and expectations right where you want them to be.
2. Be comfortable in your skin
Always bear in mind that this is your choice and if you like it, there’s no reason not to enter Sugar Mama arrangements.
We know lots of people support sugar dating in general, but you will always find someone looking at you like you’re insane for dating 30 years younger guys.
Don’t forget that there are young men with an “I want a sugar mama” headline on their sugar mama app profiles.
The point is: you should not really care for other people’s cares unless those cares are coming from your sugar babies. 😉
Feel comfortable being yourself and living the life you want to live.
3. Think about the allowance you can afford
There are lots of people, including myself, that can afford a lot of things.
But financially thinking, you should always have in mind some reasonable allowance that you should not change so frequently.
Once you set it, try to keep it stable – meaning no sudden changes and expensive airplane tickets to travel around the world.
Well, you can, if you’re into that as well and can afford it – why not?
Simply, the idea is to have something stable, so you don’t get used by your babies to pay higher amounts than you can handle.
4. Think about your safety
Not to alert you, but there are lots of scams nowadays.
So, your safety comes first.
Make sure you take all the measures you can take to protect yourself.
Some of the “book measures” we’d suggest are:
- Talk to your baby over Skype or Zoom, make sure you confirm their identity.
- Always meet (for the first few times) in public.
- Don’t ever ever give more info about yourself than you need to give (meaning credit cards, your SSN, and similar info that someone could use).
Those are some basics, but we’re sure you can think of something more specific for your case.
5. Know where to find sugar babies
The final step is to find your perfect sugar baby.
This is the master step that we’ll explain through the text.
Basically, you can find a baby online and offline.
We’re more for the online approach, but on the other side, the other one is a bit safer.
Meaning, if you have friends living the same lifestyle, you can ask for a recommendation, or if you know anyone willing to be a sugar baby personally, that will work.
The other way “the online way” is more interesting (for us) and there are tons of interesting people all around the States and world that you can approach.
There are websites specifically designed for such relationships and below we’ll list some of the most popular ones.
Being online, always make sure you follow the safety steps we’ve mentioned.
Use these best sugar mama websites
1. Ashley Madison
Ashley Madison is a sugar momma dating site that has been extremely popular for years and it is used to connect women in their 30s or 40s with younger men.
Unfortunately, we’ve not come across any female sugar babies who are looking for a sugar momma on this platform, so if you’re a lesbian sugar momma, you might just skip it.
A sugar mama looking for a sugar baby should always shoot her shot with this website because it has millions of active users and it will help you find your male sugar baby in a matter of just a few days.
You should be aware that many women pursue cougar dating on this website.
So in case you are looking for a real sugar relationship, you make it clear on your profile that you are looking for a sugar baby who will receive all the benefits of having a sugar momma in an ideal sugar relationship.
This will help connect you with sugar babies who are looking for a real arrangement and save you much time.
A sugar baby looking for sugar momma will usually first make a profile on this sugar mama dating site because it has the most users and it is very easy and safe to use.
Scams are almost nonexistent so we always recommend using this website if you want to protect your safety.
Be Naughty is also one of the free sugar momma websites that have been around for a while and have millions of users.
Here you can find thousands of both male and female sugar babies in almost every city around the whole world.
We recommend this site for a female sugar baby seeking sugar mama because most of the lesbian sugar mamas use this platform to connect with their girls.
This is also a website where you can find many women who pursue cougar dating, so make sure your bio or description makes it clear that you are a sugar mama looking for a younger person who will receive financial support in exchange for a relationship with you.
SeekingArrangement is an online dating platform that is well known for connecting female sugar babies with their sugar daddies, but it can also work for sugar momma dating too.
If you are a sugar mummy, looking for a young person that will satisfy all of your needs, then this is the right place for you.
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This is also the website most sugar mamas use because they know how popular it is among sugar daddies and that most sugar babies use it as a sugar momma finder.
However, this is mostly made for a male sugar baby seeking sugar momma, so in case you were looking for a female sugar baby, you may not have much luck with this one.
Unfortunately, SeekingArrangement has one big disadvantage, and that is the fact that there are many scammers on this platform.
This is the reason why we advise you never to reveal your real identity but rather choose a new, sugar mama nickname.
Some of the things you should also never share with strangers on this platform are your bank account information, phone number, and social security number.
What are the best sugar mama dating apps?
Most millennial sugar babies are more of an app person and want to find sugar momma easily via their phone, so there are plenty of sugar momma apps that will connect them with sugar mamas like you in a minute.
Tinder is a dating app that is extremely popular among younger people and even though it was originally made for people who seek traditional relationships, it can be used for sugar dating too.
During the last year, when the pandemic hit, we saw a rise in the number of sugar mamas and sugar daddies using it.
Since many restrictions didn’t allow us to leave our hometown, both sugar daddies and mamas, but also male and female sugar babies, decided to use this app to meet their future partners.
The best thing about Tinder is the fact that will show you people from your city or area, which means that you can easily find a sugar baby in your neighborhood.
If you are a sugar mama for female sugar babies, this may be the best option for you, because it has the most active users out of all sugar dating apps and it will for sure help you connect with lesbian sugar babies in your city.
Just like with SeekingArrangement, there are also many scammers on Tinder who mostly target women, whether they be sugar babies or sugar mamas.
This is the reason why you should be very careful when connecting with potential sugar babies and messaging them.
Never reveal any of your personal information like phone numbers or bank account info, and make sure you always stay safe when meeting your new sugar baby.
Sudy is the most popular sugar dating app in general, since it has millions of active users from all places around the world.
Even though it was made to connect sugar daddies with young female sugar babies, as the sugar market expanded and we have seen many sugar mamas entering it, so Sudy decided to make features that will connect sugar mommas with young men and women too.
Sudy is an app that has a lot of different features and filters, and the “sugar momma near me” filter is the one that will present you to all sugar babies on the app.
When we tested the app, we found that also allows you to browse different profiles and learn a bit more about potential sugar babies before you actually start the conversation with them.
The description boxes on this app are very detailed so you can find out a lot about your potential sugar baby, see why they need a sugar mama, and whether they are up for the type of arrangement you are seeking, or not.
This is probably the best sugar dating app that exists on the market and we would recommend it to both sugar daddies and sugar mamas looking for interesting people with whom they will engage in a sugar relationship.
Making sugar momma arrangements
How your sugar baby will be behaving and what he or she will be providing you with depends solely on the type of your arrangement.
Once you meet your sugar baby and decide to engage in some sort of a sugar arrangement, you will need to discuss the details of your future relationship.
A sugar momma relationship is always a beneficial relationship, which means you will have to invest both time and money in your sugar baby if you want this relationship to succeed.
You should be clear from the beginning and always tell your sugar baby what are the things you expect from him or her because they can’t read your mind.
Communication is the key to all successful relationships, and the same goes for sugar momma dating.
Your wishes and requirements should be stated after the first date because in case your sugar baby is not comfortable with that or thinks that he can’t satisfy all of your wishes, you can break up in peace and start the search for other partners that will be a better match.
The sugar mama arrangement is something that should always be respected by your sugar baby, but also by you because in case someone crosses the line your relationship will probably come to an end.
If you are only looking for a casual hookup, be honest about that the first time you meet, because you don’t want to waste anyone’s time.
As a sugar mama, you will always have to provide your sugar baby with some type of financial support or at least some gifts, which is something you need to keep in mind.
In case you are not giving anything to them, then this is not a beneficial relationship and you are not a sugar mama, but rather a cougar.
Is being a sugar mama sex work?
This is a question that all the people who consider entering the sugar industry ask themselves – what does sugar momma mean?
Even though it might seem like sex work or escorting, sugar dating is nothing like that because it focuses on providing people with real relationships.
What is a real relationship depends on one person to another, but the fact is that none of these sugar relationships are strictly sexual.
Sugar relationships have many non-sexual, emotional components and it is not rare that they turn into traditional relationships.
While we do understand that some people may not feel comfortable enough to engage in relationships like this, it is certainly something that you shouldn’t be afraid of because there are no legal consequences or punishments for being a sugar mama or sugar baby.
Our methodology was to gather and study relevant information that pertains to the sugar momma industry and how best one can delve into the sugar mama world in the safest way possible.
The analysis and evaluation were based on certain criteria that include; age range, profile quality, dating app and sites used, and a host of expert opinions on the best way to become a top-of-the-class sugar momma.
We believe by now you have all your doubts cleared on how best to go about your sugar momma business in the best and safest way possible.
Now let us look at some of the questions that may bother you or your potential sugar babies to which we’ve provided adequate expert advice below.