
Whom would you rather date ā a teenager, a girl in her twenties to mid-thirties, or a mature woman?
Today weāre here to talk about dating mature women and how to hook up with a Tinder Cougar.
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Read on to find out!
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Tinder Cougar Guide in Video Form
Audio (podcast) form for those of you on the go
What is a Cougar?
Cougars are typically defined as mature (see how Iām not saying older!!!) straight women open to seriously date or hook up with guys quite younger than themselves.
She can be a milf too, but not necessarily.
Let me break this for you.
First off, a cougar is any woman aged 35 and over who is willing to enjoy either serious (less common) or casual intercourse with a man younger than herself.
Though sites that cater to those seeking one-night-stands (like BeNaughty or Ashley Madison) exist, and others (like eHarmony) which cater to those seeking serious relationships, Cougars will always love Tinder for its diversity and range.
Typically, 10 years is defined as the āidealā age difference between the partners, but as long as the man is younger, this is it.
It may seem to you that these women are desperate for a bit of attention since they donāt get it from their peers.
Oh, my sweet summer child!
These women are all about the thrill and fun that comes with dating younger men.
Take it from a frequent Cougars target, these women are not desperate so that they settle for any man younger than themselves.
No, they pick their prey carefully.
Being younger is a prerogative, but you still must be mature enough to be worthy of her attention.
Once you hook up with cougars, you will see how free-spirited and open-minded these women are.
There is no drama about dating, having children together, marrying, etc.
Donāt get me wrong ā you can do any of these if you both wish so.
But, there wonāt be any pressure.
Finally, they donāt waste time (neither yours nor theirs); they know what they want and know how to get it.
You are there just to let yourself experience new thrills and new pleasures that you didnāt know existed before you met her.
Naturally, you will now ask meā¦where to find cougars?
Where to Find Them?
Well, there is always the option of hitting bars around the town, but, letās be honest ā you canāt just go around every night hoping to find a cougar to have fun with.
Hereās something better, something that you can do lying comfortably in your bed.

Tinder, my man.
This is how I found a cougar or two (or rather they found me, and it was more than two J) and let me tell you ā Iāve had the time of my life with these women, even though Iām was still in my twenties.
They showed me some tricks and moves I never thought possible!!!
At least, Iāve never experienced this with younger women.
There are no taboos, no fear and whining āBut, what if I get pregnant?ā.
And, the best thing of all ā even though they are categorized as āolder womenā, trust me, they take such good care of their looks that you often wonāt be able to figure out their real age.
Anyhow, you can give a chance to another cougar app like Tinder, but here Iāll focus on the best.
How to Lure Cougars on Tinder?
Obviously, there is no āTinder for cougarsā as an individual app.
Youāre stuck with the āregularā Tinder.
But donāt worry, older women on Tinder arenāt that difficult to find.
Cougars on Tinder are very present and out there.
You just need to be clever enough to get them to notice you.
I know I was wondering if I could find milfs on Tinder, but then it hit me!

You know that Tinder works by showing people nearby.
So, you can use “find cougars near me” or “older women near me” to get fast results.
Assuming you were honest about your age (your twenties), the app will show women either your age or slightly younger.
So, why not cheat the system?
In all honesty, I did that and got lucky multiple times over.
Heed my counsel, do the same, and Tinder milfs and cougars will be a-plenty!
This covers your dilemma on how to find cougars or how to meet older women on Tinder.
Of course, here you need to make the most of everything Tinder has to offer ā Super Likes combined with Top Picks, etc.
Still, none of these matters if you canāt hold a proper conversation.

The Basics of Communication
Remember, these women are experienced in different aspects of life.
You canāt charm them by talking about the latest games and/or your college or other frustrations.
Thatās a big turn-off.
They donāt want to hook up with an infant still sucking the titties juice, they want to hook up with a (younger) MAN.
Letās go step by step in defining how to meet older women and exchange bodily fluids.
1. Visual Communication
Be aware that itās all about the first impression when it comes to these women (or any other woman, for that matter).
Your profile needs to tell the right story and for a cougar hookup, it needs to be well-maintained.

The profile photo you choose should suggest how good-looking you are.
Still, it must be chosen with the utmost care.
Donāt show off your six-pack and a boner.
Only pathetic creeps do that.
It will get you nowhere no matter if we talk about cougars and milfs or girls your age. Some might find it interesting, but the odds are rather low.
To stay on the safe side, have a female friend choose the photos for you (I did that and it did wonders).
It would be awesome if you had an older friend who can choose the photo appealing to your target audience – Tinder older women.
Most of all, your profile needs to clearly show you are younger.
Even though your age settings suggest otherwise, make sure itās obvious from your profile photo that you are not in fact 39.
Donāt worry if these women will see you as a trickster and liar.
They, more than anyone, are aware that we all have to bend the rules if we want to get what we want.
2. First Impression
Besides the photo, your bio is also the one that needs to leave a good impression.
Gaming references are a NO if we talk about hooking up with mature women.
Make it short and to the point.
Make it personal and humorous at the same time.
Donāt write long stories since nobody will read them.

Something like āLadies lover and a lustful eater. Swipe me right to test me first-hand Jā will do the trick, believe it or not!
See?
This is a humorous remark with underlying meanings (if you canāt detect them then you better drop the task!).
The good thing is that these layers of meaning will not escape anyone let alone a cougar willing to date outside her age group.
But none of that is as relevant as straight-up communication.
3. Face-to-Face (Chat-to-Chat) Communication
I did say that cougar Tinder does not exist and the place where to meet cougars is regular Tinder.
I already mentioned the trick to see more cougars on your profile.
Now, the same rules you follow when establishing communication with girls your age on Tinder apply to when chatting up milfs and cougars.
What not to Do
I know itās pointless to be descriptive here. So read carefully what you really should not do when establishing first written contact with cougars.
a. Loverās Labourās Lost
First of all, praising her beauty or good looks by quoting your favorite poet or writer (are they, though?) is futile.
Itās a clichĆ© and youāll be pinned down as a smart-ass.
Or, God forbid some lost soul that nobody understands.
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Cougars run as fast as possible from these since they donāt need drama queens in their life.
Thereās no luck for you here as youāre not here to pass a literature exam.
You are here to get laid.
b. Donāt Be a Brute
Please, pretty please, donāt start with things like, āNice butt cheeks/wreck!ā Youāre not an animal.
Or, āI would like to suck your titties juice!ā
Thatās just weird.
And, kinda sick!
āIād lick you like a lollipopā or āIāll let you lick the lollipopā are also a freakinā NO!
You can use this later but for a first impression, you may just as well tell her sheās not your type.
Because, with such pick-up lines, you definitely wonāt be hers.
I believe that with these two you got the gist of what not to use as pick-up lines. Let us now focus onā¦
What to Do (to Do Her)?
When meeting older women on Tinder you must be appreciative.
Above all, you must be self-confident.
Itās no rocket science if I tell you women like to be wooed.
Milfs, cougars, girls in their prime. Ways are different, but the idea is the same.
a. Compliment and intrigue her
This will get you off to a good start.
If you donāt know how to use what you know about her to your advantage. Analyze the photos she uploaded. Check if you see something you like. Comment on that.

Say things like āYou look great in this photo! By the way, is that thing still there?ā Be creative here and act like you were there yourself.
This is how youāll drag her into a conversation about a topic of mutual interest.
b. Be original
You can skip commenting on the setting of her photos and go directly to comment on her looks.
Tastefully, though!
āGirl, Iāve seen a fair share of 42 year-olds and thereās no chance in hell that you could be one!ā
This immediately tells her that you are perceptive, know how to compliment and that you already have experience with women older than yourself.
c. Be straightforward
Although Cougars appreciate directness, you canāt ask for sex directly.
I mean, there is a place where you can do that, but thatās not the topic here.
As someone who has enormous experience with women well older than myself, I can tell you that itās never good, and it doesnāt yield results in most cases.
Luckily, I was never so rash and imprudent to do it but some of them told me all sorts of experiences they had with guys thinking itās OK to write stuff like āWanna bang tonight?ā
It would be if you werenāt an idiot! (that would be the reply).
And thatās about it!
What Next?
Now that weāve established how to find a cougar and make a successful contact, itās natural to wonder what comes next.
You wonāt chat forever when there are better things to do.
The best thing about cougars is that they are open-minded and easy-going.
It wonāt be long before you can set a date with her.
She might even suggest it before you do.

As for the practical guidance, you can easily start by hinting at the fact sheās into younger guys.
Say something like youāve never had sex with someone older than you and see where it goes.
Know that you cannot miss here.
Sheās definitely not looking for the next husband on Tinder and since she swiped you right, sheās into younger guys for sure.
Itās just up to you now to prove youāre up to the task.
Final Word on Tinder Cougar
Life is short, make it count, seize the day.
Have stories to tell when you grow old.
Try new stuff.
Think outside the box.
Use the Tinder app to meet Cougars.
Date a cougar.
Itās an unforgettable experience to get a Cougar matching.
Find a cougar/milf on Tinder (no, there is no Tinder for milfs) and swipe her right.
Then let her shake you right and left, sideways and anyways in the bed.
Or, wherever you see fit.
Because sheāll do that and so much more.
Youāll experience a whole new level of pleasures that can be given only by the women who have fully let go of the stifling social norms and imposed beliefs.
Who says the woman has to be younger than you so you can enjoy the sex?
Trust me, a notorious lie is what it is!